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  4 0 "Would you teach me?" might work with an older woman, but I agree with the other poster; generally, with that sort of thing, you do your best, then sheepishly admit it later if things went reasonably well. There's no huge secret to kissing; make sure you've brushed your teeth recently and don't slobber all over a woman's face. Other than that, take your cues from her. Don't start out with a huge open mouth and a Mick Jagger tongue - start with little closed-mouth soft kisses and work up to a more tonsil-involving liplock gradually. And there's no shame in not having kissed before. Everyone is different, and everyone's experiences are different. Geni answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Aircraftonfire… 0 0 Thanks for your answers everyone. I don't think I'm a 'gag her with your tounge' kind of guy, but I absolutely am a 'overthink it and say something unecessary' person. It seems clear from your answers that saying something upfront is a bad idea, but that there are plenty of cute ways to communicate that stuff later on. I'm glad I asked. Originally I was fishing for a Savage answer, but the response has been great. I think I'll stick around in Questionland. Aircraftonfire commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  4 0 Why do you need to tell a girl this information? So maybe the first time you kiss the girl will think you're a bad kisser (or who knows, maybe not). Does it matter? It's not like it's a mechanically hard thing to do. Here's what I'd recommend: when you reach a point when you're about to make out with a girl, just do it. If, afterwards, the girl comments that something was weird about it, you can sheepishly admit to her that it was your first kiss. If anything, I think that'd just make you more endearing anyway. NotAntiGay answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 Awww. :) I don't think you need to announce it. If you're nervous about starting, you could try starting out by kissing her cheek, then working your way toward her mouth. It's surprisingly sensual. If she asks, you can tell her. At some point in the relationship you should tell her (this will likely come up if you haven't dated before either). But it's not a huge deal. DO NOT GAG HER WITH YOUR TONGUE. CleverScreenName answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Aircraftonfire… 0 0 God damn that sounds fun. Sounds like a good way to avoid awkward lunges. Aircraftonfire commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 0 Take it from someone who was a late first-kisser in life: you can learn it on the job. lol No need to tell anyone unless you really feel compelled. Just try it out and ask the other person if they have any tips for your kissing. Maybe just ask what they would like more or less of in a kiss. And yah, don't wrap your whole mouth around a girl and slobber on her to start out with. Other than that, go for it! Kristin Bell answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Why do you have to say anything at all? Just do it. You'll do fine. Livi answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 2 comments by BasementDweller3 and BasementDweller3… 1 0 I have been kissed and no one's ever critiqued me on it, even when I asked, and I don't think I've gotten better at it over the years, so I kiss the same way I did when I started, and no complaints. I know some people get all melty about it and think it's really important, and it is sort of, in that you can get some clues about how that person is going to be able to turn you on generally from it, personality traits, etc (ramming tongue down throat right away = aggressive, slobbery = possible canine ancestry, that sort of thing), but it's never mattered a great deal to me as a specific act. Everything else the person does is informative too, conversation, use of hands, facial expression, whatever. Young guys tend to be lousy in bed in general, it takes them a while to get over it because young women don't tend to speak up and teach them. Even if you are starting later than your peers you can jump ahead of most of them in terms of skills by asking her what she wants. Tell her you don't have a lot of experience (the none part of that can come up later, shyly, if she asks). That's endearing. And it shows her it's ok to teach you what she needs. And it's smart, because she'll make an effort to teach you. You can learn your basics very fast with someone to teach you, knowledge it would take years to gain from banging drunks girls at frat parties. But don't get all concerned about the kissing. It's not a big deal. Plus, she'll be doing half the work, you can just kind of follow along. It's not all on you. BasementDweller3 commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 P.S. I'm pretty aggressive kissing-wise. I think I'd be a little off put if I guy started out like I do (for about ten seconds, then I wouldn't care). But you match her pace, you'll be fine. It's kind of like a sexual interest meter, I think. It's an interesting tongue conversation. Have fun! BasementDweller3 commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 I was in your boat at one point. Never received any complaints and it never really came up. People have all kinds of different preferences. Unless you start licking her nose or something, she probably won't suspect anything. You'll probably be a natural because it's a pretty natural thing. On the flip side, maybe you can tell a friend and get her to help you out. If you put yourself out there like that, I bet it could work and as a bonus, you might get lucky and feed two birds with one loaf ;-) porqua answered in Sex & Relationships 3 months ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 2 Another idea would be to wait until things get moving along and you're about to get more intimate or personal and then just whisper in her ear "Teach me how you like it..." or just "Teach me..." Good luck. O my captain answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 3 comments by Geni, CleverScreenName, and BasementDweller3… 0 0 That would actually freak me out a little, if someone did it at that point. And no, that wasn't my thumbs-down. Geni commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Not mine either, but it's a kiss, not sex. If I were going in for a first kiss with a new love interest and they said "teach me" I'd wonder what was going through their brain. CleverScreenName commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Yeah, slight creep factor. At best confusing. BasementDweller3 commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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