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  14 1 You led him on with the kiss. I'm sorry, but you are going to have to marry him and have 20 kids with him now. Them's the breaks, kid. :( Kristin Bell answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  8 1 How about texting back that you think he is really nice and sweet but that you are a lone coyote and not very monogamous. Also, you know that he's not the one or really very close to. Honest, direct communication really can be effective. Kip Waddle answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 6 comments by O my captain, aquariancat, and CleverScreenName… 0 0 I agree with Kip. You stated it very clearly for us, why not to him? O my captain commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 I'm thinking I'll probably do something along these lines- I talked about a book I'm reading (Sex at Dawn- Thanks Dan!) and how I'm reconsidering monogamy, and how I'm planning to move, and..and...and.... but I think I'll have to be straight and just tell him that I'm a lone coyote and I dont feel comfortable getting into anything, especially with the hight of the communication. Jesus. Now I know how dudes feel. aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 I think this is getting a bit ahead of things since AC said she wasn't really into him. What if he says he doesn't care if you're monogamous? For all you know, he's a poly geek boy. If he says he's poly and asks you out, will you go? CleverScreenName commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 No, totally not. This texting girly bullshit is WAY too much for this cat. It's a little too much pressure, and also I'm not attracted to him (if I have to question it then I'm not, right?) Ugh poly geek boys... aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Then I'd just say "thanks, but no" and cut off that discussion before it happens. CleverScreenName commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 CleverScreenName has the right idea. Don't leave any room for wishful misinterpretation, which seems like the kind of thing a guy who stalks a first date via text and facebook would be prone to do. e.strange commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 0 Why are you being so nice? Be more blunt or you're just giving this guy false hope. Arsenic7 answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by aquariancat and Arsenic7… 0 0 I guess since I've never been in this position before I dont want to be mean? aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 You can be nice whilst being blunt. It's just that you're going out of your way to not hurt his feelings. His feelings will be hurt, it sounds like, no matter how nicely you tell him so you just have to get it out there. "I'm sorry but I'm not interested in you," is a rather polite response. Arsenic7 commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  4 0 Regardless of how you break the bad news to him, try your damnedest to gracefully explain why the creepy over-text/facebook/etc-ing was a dreadful gamekiller. Ideally, he'll learn from his mistakes instead of creepering his next potential romance. But probably not. He'll probably keep creepering. bopgun23 answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by "Cagey" and aquariancat… 0 0 Or, assuming he had a really great time and got nothing but positive vibes from you, he's rejoycing! Let him down gently, girl... "Cagey" commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 He was really clear that he was feeling kind of smitten and comfortable with me- positive vibes and all that jazz. I do feel like I should let him know what turned me off, eventually- save other sisters from this kind of drama! Like I said in another comment- now I know how dudes feel! I just think he might be a tad fragile and sensitive... thats the hard part. aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 You already have good advice from the great people of Questionland. I just wanted to point out that if you ever start a band: Lone Coyote is a great name. Good luck with the textinator! SurleyYurMom answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by aquariancat and capicola… 0 0 yeah I totally dig calling myself a lone coyote. aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Then fucking earn it. I don't think lone coyotes spend a lot of time agonizing over whether they might hurt the feelings of someone "nice." capicola commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 It was a first date and you're not really into him? It's kindest to cut this off now. How depends on whether he's in your social circle already and whether you want a second date. If he isn't and you don't, I'd send a polite email thanking him for the date but saying you don't see this going anywhere. Ignore further texts, and defriend on Facebook. (Why did you accept the friend request?) Do not engage further. Keep the texts in case he starts geting weird. If he is and you do, then I'd set up time for a FRIENDLY coffee and tell him he's weirding you out with all the texting. If he can handle that, then you just got off to a weird start. If he can't, see Option A. CleverScreenName answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by aquariancat… 0 0 I know, the Facebook acceptance happened before the date, when things were just friendly. God, BIG lesson learned on that one! aquariancat commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Sounds like someone I know. As this question was from several days ago, you may have already followed the valuable advice already given. People learn best from their mistakes, but generally when they know what mistakes they made. I know several 35+ men who are tragically single and get desperate and do this kind of stuff. I'm pretty sure no one has sat them down to say, "don't, it's creepy." So the cycle continues and they spiral into self-loathing and desperation. When really, these guys are pretty cool people, but they turn into blubbering gooey creeps when smitten. If they'd just be themselves, they'd have much better luck. nseattlite answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 1 Send him a copy of "The Virgin Project" with a note that says 'Thanks for the good time last night, but I'm already involved.' Maybe he'll get the hint. "Cagey" answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by Arsenic7 and "Cagey"… 0 0 You are really obsessed with that book. No offense. Arsenic7 commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Sorry. It was a bad joke. Yes, I just got my copy in the mail yesterday. I read it cover to cover twice. Good book. "Cagey" commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 1 Tell him you are seeking a restraining order. I have 4 that I got from the courts to protect me from some creepy guys I've went out with in Seattle. Cato the Younger Younger answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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