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Can you help me find Dan Savage's advice to girlfriends/wives who are anti-porn?

I have a friend whose fiancée is incredibly strongly opposed to his watching porn, going to strip clubs, etc. This topic gets brought up pretty frequently, even though he has curtailed almost all (but not ALL) of this activity since meeting her. She equates this sort of thing with straight-up infidelity.

I see this as a trust issue, and it drives me nuts. However, I realize there's not a ton of room here for me to butt in. However, I know that Dan has written many really intelligent things on this (and related) subjects, and I'd like to compile a few links to things he's written about this in the hopes of getting her to read an outside perspective.

The problem is that Dan has written so voluminously about so many topics that searches for things like "Dan savage porn girlfriend" still result in a pretty bad signal-to-noise ratio. Can you help me find some good links?

Jon asked in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report

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    The most tagged/categorized and searchable version of Dan's content is currently in the Savage Love iPhone app. There you can find 77 questions tagged "porn" and many of them deal with this kind of issue.

    The iPhone app led me right to these columns, for example:
    http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=1487886
    http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=15715
    http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=15810

    Without the app, it's going to be a matter of clever searching or lots of archive-trolling.

    Anthony Hecht answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report
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    No. I cannot help you. It is against my religion.

    Kristin Bell answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report
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