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  3 0 You can indulge in anything kinky, find it totally hot 90% of the time, and still have moments where it's a little off-putting, or not as erotic. That's OKAY. The exact same thing isn't going to lift our luggage everytime. The occasional "weirded out" moment could be because you're starting to worry he's more turned on by the garters than by you, especially if you're both dressing up every time you have sex. You're having awesome sex twice a day? That's amazing. Why not rotate the fancy panties? He gets to wear the lingerie one time, then only you, than NEITHER of you, than both of you. See if varying the routine and outfits makes you feel more secure that you're fucking each other, not just your respective outfits. Most people in your situation (myself included, once upon a time) try to eliminate the dressing up entirely when they start feeling that way, and it usually leads to more guilt and frustration for both parties. He feels like he's a freak, you feel like you're denying him, but you still feel insecure. Moderation and variation is the key. Try not to beat yourself up or feel guilty for having the odd internal reaction you "feel like you shouldn't have." Emotions are rarely logical, you just have to work with what you're feeling (and the multiple orgasms a day sound like a pretty good thing to be feeling). Karla Pacheco answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 4 comments by Rev.Enant, Karla Pacheco, and Basil… 0 0 seconded - this is a wonderful answer, Karla. Rev.Enant commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Another thing I was going to mention (but the post was already going way long), the reason he's saying "it was YOUR idea for me to wear garters" is because almost every guy is extremely insecure about any sexual act that makes him seem less masculine. Just let that go. He needs an excuse to feel like it's okay, that he's doing it because you like it, not that he's less of a man. The reason she got so much love in the original post is because she DIDN'T make him feel like he was "less of a man." Keep that attitude up, and you'll keep having an amazing and inventive sex life! Karla Pacheco commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 And that is not just for men - both sexes often need "permission" to do things that we are so deeply taught not to do. A lot of women need it for submissive play, a lot of men need it for crossdressing or feminization. Totally normal. Basil commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Oh, totally, Basil. I could go on and on (as I'm obviously apt to do, heh) but yes. We all need to embrace that we're maybe not being lady-like or manly-like but the most important thing is we're sure as hell getting our fuck on. Karla Pacheco commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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