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  0 0 When I do chores around the house I like to blast music. I have taught the kids this too, and to make it more fun they get to choose the music. Pirate Music seems to work. Mr. Compass answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  0 0 Examine why she hates them: do the adults "hate" them too? Or does she loathe chores in general? Ask her what specifically makes her dislike certain shores (e.g. she hates washing dishes because her hands turn to prunes), and perhaps divide the work so she gets jobs that don't offer as many problems for her. I agree with Griffin (pay for work chores), though it depends on the chore entirely. I feel family members should be paid for Work. Yes, things like saying please, and chores like emptying the dishwasher are just a matter of common decency and/or pitching in for the good of the communal/shared home. Whereas chopping wood, babysitting, washing the car: these are things that even a 5 y.o. can clearly see have value, and should be paid as 'work' - after all, these are things that adults PAY for. Kids are no fools - they recognize slave labor / indentured servitude readily. Grey area: Raking the yard - If I paid a gardener to do this, I would pay the kids for it too. If I do it myself, I count it as a communal-good thing and no pay is offered. Setting a NON-hypocritical role model example is vitally important. Rev.Enant answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  0 1 Electric shocks. Fnarf answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report 5 comments by Griffin, Fnarf, and BasementDweller3… 0 0 Which is better, Fnarf? Tasers or shock collars? Griffin commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 I SAID, put the fork in the toaster. Now DO IT. Fnarf commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Griffin, I would recommend something with a remote. That way they can't hide. BasementDweller3 commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Well, Tasers do have those lead wires on them so you can shoot from a distance... Of course, shock collars come with corrective remotes or an anti-noise setting... Griffin commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Invisible fence: Not just for dogs. Rev.Enant commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  1 0 I agree with "bellen" and would add that for my 9 year old and 7 year old daughters, the way I break down their "clean their room" chore is to tell them to pick up 10 things and then come down for a treat. Sometimes the treat is a strawberry, sometime a little cookie and sometimes a hug. After about 4 of these round trips (40 things) their room is clean and they've had fun too. Marty Unger answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  6 0 My mother had some good techniques here (necessary, in a large family). One was the job chart; there were a set of daily jobs (taking out trash, setting table, etc) that we did on a rotating schedule. Not doing your job each day was not an option. Chores were not tied to allowance, but done because you're part of the household and they need to get done. For items that weren't needed daily, Mom would pick up things we left lying around and put them in a box. To get them back, we had to pull a chore out of a hat and do the chore. This kind of structure worked very well in a large household and I use it today. I find that my household responds well not to rewards but to clear expectations. Rewards are separate. CleverScreenName answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by "Cagey"… 0 0 I like this idea.... chores being done because you're part of the household and they need to get done. That's basically what I have been telling my kids. Doesn't always work, but it's helpful. "Cagey" commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  7 0 life is not all about fun and 9 yo is a good time to learn this unpleasant lesson. "fun" and "chores" do not have to be combined. I'm all for natural consequences - take care of the less pleasant chores efficiently and there is more time for play. It is important that the chores are age appropriate and that expectations are clear. At 9 years old the directions need to be broken down. Rather than saying "clean your room" you may need to make a list of the smaller tasks such as "put your books on the shelf, put your dirty clothes in the basket" etc. The rule is you are not allowed to add to the list as they work or they will feel like the chore has no end. I do let my kids listen to books on cd from the library while they are doing chores. It helps them relax but doesn't distract them from the task. bellen answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  5 0 Try working together - each on his own tasks. One family I met would spent every Sunday morning cleaning their apartment - each doing assigned tasks, then afterward, the whole family would go on an outing and enjoy time together. Roslyn Ann Duffy answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by Roslyn Ann Duffy… 0 0 I posted an excerpt on 'Chores' (which is #7 in my Top Ten Preschool Parenting book) on my website as an additional resource. Go to www.RoslynDuffy.com to read more. Hope it helps. Roslyn Ann Duffy commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  1 3 Have you tried fee-for-service, or an allowance related to the chores being done properly? Don't discount financial incentives out of hand. Griffin answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by "Cagey"… 0 0 I'm afraid this teaches that they will be paid for every little thing and that they should expect payment for what we normaly expect of any decent human being. "Cagey" commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  0 1 What specific chores do you want your daughter to do? Here are a few general answers. - Try to find a way to convert that chore into a game - Give a reward for completing a chore (or you can make the gift giving random so you retain the element of surprise) - if you want her to do the dishes, take her to the grocery and ask her to help out in cooking. longjonhay answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  0 0 As Bender, from Futurama says: "I guess if you want to have children beaten, you have to do it yourself." Basil answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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