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Surrogacy and co-parenting?

I am considering being a surrogate and potential co-parent. I'm 30 years old now and would like to meet a nice gay couple (or a straight couple might be okay too I guess). I just don't know any couples that would work. I'm not planning on doing this right away, but would like to meet someone(s) and put this in the works for a year or so from now. that way we can get to know each other and such.

Any tips on this sort of arrangement? Any legal stuff I should consider? I can think of a few things off the top of my head. I would like to be involved in our child's life and upbringing but I know being a single full time mother would not be fair to me or the kid.

Anyway...thanks for your thoughts!

BastIsisKali asked in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report
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    This is not a subject I know a lot about...
    I do think you'll want to seek out experts for advice. And by experts, I mean both lawyers who are experienced with surrogacy, and parents - birth mothers and adoptive parents - to learn about the experience from their side.
    In a brief web search, I found this site, which would at least give you a brief overview of the process: http://www.surrogatemothers.com/
    Here in Seattle, there's a fabulous organization called Open Adoption and Family Services - I don't know whether they work with surrogacy at all.
    But I know that in general, they're great at matching up pregnant birth moms with adoptive parents (gay and straight) with the intention of open adoption - where birth mom will stay involved in the child's life to whatever degree she wants to. You may check in with them to see if they either work with surrogacy, or know who does.

    Janelle Durham answered in Parenting Q&A about 1 year ago | Report
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