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  5 1 We can't know if he is full of shit, but it certainly seems like it from the picture you've painted. Should you still talk to him? I'd say so. You are a person he can talk with openly about his sexuality, perhaps the only one in his life. You're under no obligation to be his support system, of course... But if you still care about him, and maintaining contact with him won't hurt you too much, I think it would be the kind thing to do. kitschnsync answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 3 comments by Kip Waddle, Lee, and kitschnsync… 0 0 Allied is what we call straights who like the gays. You deserve a better label. Thanks for always having such a great attitude. You are a much better gay than lots of THE gays. Kip Waddle commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Goddammit I accidentally downvoted this answer, meaning to upvote it. Sorry. If a moderater could undo my slip-of-the-mouse... :) Lee commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Kip, that is probably the nicest thing that will ever be said about me online. Thanks, man! kitschnsync commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 0 Whether you stay in touch depends on how annoyed you are at being called part of an experimental phase, I guess. I would be very, very annoyed. I was hurt enough when an old flame briefly decided to characterize our relationship like that, and she wasn't a four-year relationship. I don't know if he's full of shit. Probably: he was deeply closeted, sounds like, and he may now be trying to take what looks like an easier path. (It isn't.) But fundamentally, I think he is hurting a lot and deeply in denial. He may need you to talk to--it depends on whether you can handle it. Sorry. For both of you. CleverScreenName answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Well, I'm assuming he got a boner during sex with you during those 4 years - so at most he is bisexual. Claiming to be straight now is rather silly. It seems like he is falling into the misguided definition of being "gay" or "straight" that conservatives tend to espouse - that of choosing to be one way or the other. As opposed to it being based on biological reactions to being near/on/under a guy. So, there is a good chance he is retreating back into his upbringing and could very likely be on his way to a born-again, gay-bashing hysteria. Basil answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 4 Don't stay in touch with him--he'll just drag you into his drama. And yes, he's full of shit. Griffin answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by Griffin and R.j. Ward… 0 0 Longer version: he's not entirely straight (and you're the proof), so the deciding he's straight and dumping you is shitty. He's relegated you to the fling on the side of his experimental phase. That said, you dated for 4 years and no one knew about it? How and why did that happen? I get it, I really do: coming out is often difficult and especially so if you've got a fundy family who are NRA members to boot and you're financially dependent. I've been there. However, if you're closeted and using partners for sex when you know they want more, that's evil. Griffin commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 It's not that absolutely no one knew about it. My family knew and all of my friends. his friends and family were completely unaware, though. We lived far enough apart that he was able to keep the relationship compartmentalized. R.j. Ward commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 6 You should know if he's full of shit :-) You would have the most experience... aesyugc answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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