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i'm a 31 year old gay man who's never had a relationship last more than 2 and half months. you say it's hard for gay men 2 B in an ltr before 30, why?

I'm good looking and in reasonably good shape, physically and emotionally, but I seem to get bored with guys by the 10 week mark, if it even lasts that long. I know part of settling down is settling for, but is that? Or do I need to alter my dating/hook up mojo to keep a guy and keep my interest up in the same guy?

NotoriousDSG asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report

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    Maybe you're not the marrying/settling down/settling for kind. Some guys aren't. Or...

    You could be one of those guys whose sexuality—whose mojo, for lack of a better term—really requires the energy and thrill of the, er, hunt. You're not the only guy like that out there, and I've seen guys like you land in successful, long-term relationships... with other guys who feel the same way, have the same needs.

    Basically, have you considered the possibility of being in an open LTR with another guy that involves a lot of threesomes? Would any of those relationships of yours have made it past the 10-week mark if you and the prospective BF had gone out hunting together?

    Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report
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