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  7 1 Depends on how seriously turned off you are. If you really can't stand it - then you may have to talk to him about that and ask to stop. If you are just so-so turned off, and he is REALLY turned on by it - then it might be worth it to do it for him. I had a girlfriend of mine in the past who did not enjoy doing those kind of things, and I personally do enjoy them. It's not a major kink of mine, but variety is the spice of life and all that. She was pretty turned off by everything to do with anal - on herself or me. What did we do? Well, slowly and over time I opened her up to the concept that anal can be extremely pleasurable for HER. Once she started experiencing pleasure from it, and recognized how much she enjoyed it she was really excited to do the same for me. This was over the course of months - it takes time to really change some of our preconceptions about sexuality. I think a lot of people have hang-ups about anal in general. This can be caused for several reasons - for women, in my experience, it is a combination of the general grossness of poop combined with fear and worry about making a mess/farting/something like that with a guy, bad experiences with early boyfriends that pressured them into trying it and then didn't have a clue what they were doing and caused a lot of pain, and a general societal stigma against anal play. So yeah, long story short - I would suggest opening yourself up to the idea that anal (rimming, fingering, everything) can be a positive sexual experience and start by having him to things to you so you can become accustomed to the pleasure and all-around sexiness of that area. If you are already open to that area as being sexually pleasurable, and you still don't enjoy touching/rimming your boyfriends, then I'd say go with the balance of who is more turned on - compared to who is more grossed out - and figure out what you will and won't do for him. Generally, I would always suggest that you try to accommodate what he enjoys - especially something so harmless as this. As long as he does the same for what you enjoy, of course. Basil answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by Loonachic and Basil… 0 0 Our relationship is less than 6 months new and I've always heard that T I M E heals all, so maybe with T I M E I may become more inclined to blow his mind and stick em Right in his craving behind! Loonachic commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 I think a good way to start finding it sexy is to not think of the act itself - but how much it turns him on. For me, that makes almost any act a turn on when it is obvious how much my partner enjoys it. I hope that you will come to find it sexy and do it for him. It really is a pretty common kink, and one that is not hard to do for your partner - as long as he is respectful and cleans the area. And, of course, as long as he is doing the same for your kinks and things that turn you on. You can also think of it as a bargaining tool. "You don't want to do ______ to me tonight? Well, no ass-play for you then!" Basil commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 You might find it easier if you use a latex glove when fingering and a dental dam for rimming. Also, requiring him to take a shower and to clean his ass thoroughly before you go anywhere near it is a fair request to make. R.j. Ward answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 1 Do you read Savage Love? You have an obligation to your boy to be GGG. "T I M E" is a cop-out for not challenging yourself and not growing as a person. Sticking "to your guns" isn't a very loving thing to do; that metaphor is premised on the fact that you and your partner are at battle -- do you think that reflects the reality of your relationship? Your boyfriend is mature enough to make a reasonable sexual request known: rather than keeping his kinks to himself, he is telling you what turns him on. I think you should dive in, enthusiastically, and then "make" him entertain your kinks. (Maybe he already does, another reason to be helpful.) Some of your other statements are concerning: "I do enjoy occasional ass play performed on me but it just doesn't settle right with me the other way around!" Imagine if you ate your boyfriend's ass and he was unwilling to reciprocate -- how would that make you feel? If ass play or sexual adventurousness, or reciprocation, is important enough to him, he may decide to end the relationship. John Jensen answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 4 I'd say stick to your guns. You stated quite clearly that "this sexual anal play on him is a turn-off to me". With that strong of feelings, I would not back down, if even for his pleasure. This is not something that he MUST have... just a thrill for him. If you're OK with ocassionally giving him this thrill, well, OK then. But you sound like this is across the line, and so, I differ from the other advice posted here by others. Don't comprimise against your feelings if you don't want to do it. Instead, find something else that he likes and indulge in that. Make sure he's in the same head space as you are, if that is that sex is an expression of Love, and not Lust or Kink. Or am I reading too much into your two line question? Studfinder answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 2 comments by Loonachic and Basil… 0 0 My thoughts exactly, I agree with your point of view. The problem is I am concerned he may seek his pleasure elsewhere considering he's obviously entertained this type of sexual satisfaction long before I came into the picture. I do enjoy occasional ass play performed on me but it just doesn't settle right with me the other way around! Though it took years and lots of begging and pleading from previous partners to even get me comfortable with the idea of it more less to actually allow any type of penetration. Of course only giving in for their sexual satisfaction. I don't know maybe I'm just a lil bit too old fashioned or my sex drive isn't at the same level. Wouldn't want to think I'm a prude. Suppose I'm not nasty enough for his rump! Loonachic commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 0 Nobody is born nasty - we all learn it from hot boyfriends/girlfriends that open us up to new things that are awesome and fun and exciting. This could just be one of those things. : ) Basil commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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