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Has anyone out there tried "elimination communication" with their baby and if so, what were the results?

You hear about this and the whole diaper free baby movement in the media. I don't know anyone who has tried.

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    I work with a Ukranian woman, who had a child there - she said you can't even get diapers that fit older babies, most are potty trained by one. She took her daughter into the bathtub every 2 hours or so and went "sheee sheee" and her daughter would pee, and she'd make a grunting noise for poop. But it was more like she was training her kid to go on command rather then just being responsive to her kid. She said that having a kitchen full of diapers you were trying to dry in the middle of a Ukranian winter was hell on earth.

    She also had an infant here, that she diapered the American way. She said that was way better, hands down. But when she went to visit back home, everyone was shocked that he wasn't potty trained yet (at 18 months!)

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    Ask someone for whom it is traditional in their culture. My mother taught ESL to Vietnamese women in the 70's and they used it, she said they had no problems in class. Their babies also didn't cry, just a soft wimper asking for attention. The mothers were very attuned, in the way minimal physical separation would create. If you know any Hmong, I think they'd be good for it too.

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    A good friend of ours did it and her girl is about 6 months younger than our boy. Her experience was sufficient to reinforce my own inclination to never try something like that. At least not without a whole tribe/village that's down with that sort of thing helping out.

    It does work, but imperfectly at best. As a parent you will be pissed and shit on (literally in the beginning, figuratively a decade and a half or so later) with some degree of regularity regardless of what you do. My only real criticism of it is somewhat obtuse: ie that it is used by some parents in the "parentl pissing contest" whereby some parents need to have a narrative that illustrates their own brood raising capabilities in the best light with the tacit implication that your abilities are inferior.

    The parental pissing contest narrative starts before conception usually with something along the lines of getting the house/job/finances/baby room/whatever else in order before considering having a kid, through the magical moment of procreative sex, into the bliss of a earth mother pregnancy with a courageous home birth (guilty of that one myself) which then segues into a commitment to nursing and eventually a waldorf education. Or something.

    I will say this: Diapers friggin' rule. Disposable, reusable, whatevs.

    Side annecdote: I work for Seattle's solid waste utility. We looked into funding a grant that would encourage immigrant mothers to use a diaper service. It was a long time ago but our take away from the experience is that not only were the women utterly not interested but were also a bit taken aback. One of the glories of being an American is being able to use disposable diapers. It means you made it and none would even consider anything else, let alone the "elimination method" which translates to them as "too broke to afford diapers".

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    I didn't do it myself, but I know someone who did and it seemed to work out pretty well. They just carried around a tupperware container to use a potty. They did use diapers for car rides and such. It's a lot of work, but then so is changing diapers.

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