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  5 0 I'm from Seattle, but having recently moved to a wildly different city, I can say that I think that some methods ring true just about anywhere. I'm sure you've heard this before, but you just have to jump into something that you're passionate about. Politics? Volunteer for a campaign or a local politician. Groups like The Washington Bus are a good bet, depending on your age. Volunteering of any kind is generally a good start, as are clubs of various kinds. If you're outdoorsy, try an ultimate frisbee league or some similar group sport. Knitting groups abound, and I'm sure book clubs exist. Seattle is very bookish. I wouldn't recommend certain things that I've known to work in other cities; namely going to bars and shows with the expectation of meeting new people. I don't think I've ever had that work in Seattle. People there are just far too introverted and caught up in their own social circle in those circumstances. If you're not socially adept, you're in good company in Seattle. I'd say most people there have similar troubles. I'm also not sure I'd say the Seattle Freeze is non-existent. People are polite, but much, much more standoffish than in most towns. It's quite different than anything I've experienced in the Bay area or in Philadelphia, where I currently live. Your reaction will probably depend on where you're from. It's probably going to take some time. I'm from Seattle, and even I had trouble making friends that I hadn't known for years from school and work. My final piece of advice is something that might be difficult and mildly annoying at first, but can have a big payoff: make friends with someone very extroverted--the social butterfly type. They're friendly to everyone, so it shouldn't be difficult. Even if you find them mildly annoying (I generally do), their social circle is wide enough that the chances of you meeting another like-minded person (who probably shares your annoyance) is high. And hey, maybe those extroverted tendencies will rub off on you. Good luck, and I hope the absurd length of this is useful. chimerical answered in City Living over 3 years ago | Report 2 comments by boxofbirds and Michael Strangeways… 0 0 I second the social butterfly method. It totally works for making new friends. boxofbirds commented over 3 years ago | Report 0 0 Good answer! Michael Strangeways commented over 3 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  2 0 Seek out anything that fits your interests that involves a regular weekly or monthly somewhere in town. Whatever you do, make sure it's something you can geek out on, and be proud of it. If you're asking if there are locations specifically geared for people who are looking for friends and/or more, well there are, but they're not the best way to accomplish your goal, in my opinion. You may have already heard this topic before, but in case it comes up here... Someone will probably mention that it is hard to make friends in Seattle here, "The Seattle Freeze" etc. My take: it's just as easy/difficult to make friends in Seattle as it is in any other city I've live in or stayed in. The myth of Seattle being notably anti-friendly is overblown, a bit like the "it rains all the time" thing here. BUT the social mechanics in Seattle are a bit different than in other cities, so there's a valid reason people feel slighted here. People here are generally book-buried homebodies and are more nerdy than in other cities, so people who come from a different mode may have a hard time acclamating to that. Some do so quickly. Some never do. Some need a couple years. The latter was my situation. Anyway, probably far more than you wanted in your answer, but there you go! Mackro Mackro answered in City Living over 3 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  1 0 It's cliche but true: volunteer. I volunteer at the library and it's full of earnest, nerdy girl volunteers, ie, my tribe! Figure out where your tribe is likely to be and offer your time. Cate Burlington answered in City Living over 3 years ago | Report 1 comment by Matt… 0 0 I actually did't know that cliche, thanks! Matt commented over 3 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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  1 2 Join a chorus. Join a bowling league. Volunteer. Volunteer. Volunteer. Kip Waddle answered in City Living over 3 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question New comments are not being accepted at this time.

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