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  7 0 There really are tons of factors that bear out whether someone contacts you or writes you back or not. In general, people with children (both men and women) are more likely to contact, and to be contacted by, other people with children. Dating tends to be a sort of matching game. People who are more similar to each other will be more likely to be attracted to each other. Not always, of course, but significantly more likely (there's TONS of research that supports this). There's recently been more research coming out that examines online dating specifically. You might find this report helpful in highlighting the best parts of your profile: http://escholarship.org/uc/item/0410p1kq#page-1 Here's a summary of the report above, much more condensed and easier to follow! :) http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/industry/research/onlinedatingresearch.html But as for your question, no, I wouldn't give up. Some single guys out there would be totally fine with a woman who's got a six year old, they're just harder to spot because it's not something people advertise. Good luck Urgutha Forka answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  7 1 Well I'd have to read your profile to really assess the problem with it but I'd say a lot of guys do and a lot of guys don't. Reasonably, there aren't many single people in there 30s who don't have children or previous marriages behind them, so they should be checking this stuff off. Now having a kid and saying things like, "my child is my life right now," and going on and on about your kid on a dating site are not good ideas but I think you just need to be persistent like everyone else. Arsenic7 answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  5 2 This is probably my cynicism speaking, but I suspect most childless men in their 30s don't want to enter into a ready made family. Most of them are at the point where they're looking to get married and have children (and many of the rest don't want children at all, their own or anyone else's). I also think it's a lot easier to reject people for dumb reasons online than when meeting them in person. If you see someone who seems really amazing, by all means message him, but it might make sense for you to focus more on guys who already have children of their own. keshmeshi answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by Penny Lane… 1 0 I think this answer makes sense - if you're in your 30's yourself, you might want to look for men in their 40's, who are more experienced with life in general and a little more practical and world-wise. Penny Lane commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 0 Sure, but who wants only an average single guy? I have a couple friends that were thrown back into the dating pool in the last couple years - (one had himself 'fixed'), and one is looking for someone who is into making a family. There must be others like him, or guys that can't conceive that would love to get involved with you in the hopes of someday adopting/raising your child. They might be older than the ideal range you're seeking (because older guys can tend to be more serious/mature/parental), but they are out there. And non average. Rev.Enant answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by Basil… 3 0 Not all women are dating because they want a father for their child. : ) Basil commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 Meh, honestly? Some of them, yes. I am not a dude, but I have a few male buddies in their 30's who loudly complain about how hard it is to find eligible women in their 30's w/o kids. It's very cynical of them, and I've made a point of urging them to be more open minded. The logic I have been given is that "I bet she's just looking for someone to support her kids"/"I don't want to take responsibility for her mistakes" Being a lady, I'm quite sure that women don't lose their need for romance just because they may have popped out a kid and split from the father. That's pretty much what happened with my Grandmother. She was a milf before it was trendy. Biological grandfather split when my Dad was 1. But there's a happy ending, 9 years later, she got found an amazing guy, they got married, and lived happily ever after. He took good care of my Dad, and I know he really loved my Grandma. I wouldn't emphasize the child thing on dating sites, but I wouldn't lie, either. I say tick the box, and say nothing in text. ToyYodaEcho answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 You should attempt to meet people in real life. Let them become interested in you with your personality, and not your biographical statement. Mom's with kids can be great/cute/interesting, but no one is going to pursue that without being stuck on YOU first. People are not likely to turn down someone they're actually interested because of minor details, which isn't the case on dating websites: no one is actually interested in each other -just lonely, and minor details seem important ("OH HE PLAYS CHESS - MUST BE A NERD") Stop the nonsense!   Go to the local huge book store with or without the chillens and meet some good men. GET OFF THE INTERNET, MOM. vamused answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 1 Not to sound uncompassionate, but if the tenor of your profile or messages is similar to the tone here... http://questionland.com/questions/17064-am-i-the-only-one-who-thinks-the-holidays-are-a-big-pit-of-despair ...then it might not be the fact of your offspring that's offputting. It's important to talk and work through your issues but not with prospective dates. capicola answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 1 comment by sunnydaze… 1 0 Please, give me a little credit. The holidays are tough for me, but that doesn't mean I'm constantly in a funk. My profile is upbeat, funny, and very approachable IMO. sunnydaze commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 2 Well in general Men doesn't want to go into a relationship with kids because they need to think about the kids too. Those men who go out with women with kids are their friends first then they fell in love with each other. But in dating site? No. Zee answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 10 It's not just the kids -- it's the presence of an ex- that frightens dudes off. Single people know that married people like to "play" at being single. And then, when their game is over, they shut the door and go on with their lives. John Bailo answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 3 comments by sunnydaze, keshmeshi, and John Bailo… 3 0 Well, that sucks. So divorced doesn't equal single anymore? sunnydaze commented about 1 year ago | Report 5 1 Nothing Bailo says should be taken seriously. keshmeshi commented about 1 year ago | Report 0 4 Sometimes single doesn't equal "single" in the sense that one or more "ex-es" lurking about degrade the "singleness" of the person. For example, at one point I was separated and living single, but for many years prior I had been "on my own". Yet a person who I was dating, I found out, actually had a on-off b/f who she would bring in as a "regulator" -- as in, she would play us off each other (until I realized it was a zero sum game). Really, after age 18, people are going to have a trail of relationships, so no one is truly "single" -- so I guess, based on my experience, if one does care, wait and see who shows up before going all the way. If not, then go have fun. John Bailo commented about 1 year ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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