Thank you so much!

The important point of the return of the deposit and/or accounting of the reasons for keeping it is that it will be mailed to your last know address. If you have not given her a new address then you must make sure that you have a change of address card on file with the post office. That way when she sends the documentation to you using your last known address (i.e. the place you just moved out of) it will get to you.

There is no need for unpleasantness, she can make all the accusations she wants, but she will have to document and give you a full accounting of the charges and why deposit money is being kept. IF she doesn't do that within the 14 day time limit it doesn't matter what may be true about the condition of the place, she owes you a full refund. If she refuses to pay the deposit in full after not meeting this deadline then she is liable to have to pay you double the security deposit back (as well as other legal costs you have incurred to get her to comply.

Just copying from the text above:
The court may in its discretion award up to two times the amount of the deposit for the intentional refusal of the landlord to give the statement or refund due. In any action brought by the tenant to recover the deposit, the prevailing party shall additionally be entitled to the cost of suit or arbitration including a reasonable attorney's fee.

And in the Seattle document:
The landlord is in compliance with the law if the
required payment, statement, or both, are deposited in the U.S. Mail with First Class postage paid, within 14 days. If the tenant takes the landlord to court, and it is ruled that the landlord intentionally did not give the statement or return the money, the court can award the tenant up to twice the amount of the deposit.

Is it 14 days from when we turned over the keys, or 14 days from when we vacated? We vacated the apartment, and stated in our termination of lease document that we would be out of the apartment on December 21, but she never showed up to our walk through. We kept the keys, and my roommate who is still in Seattle, left the keys in the apartment on the 1st, after their 'second' walk through.

Hmmm... I went back and read the documents again.

Because you used the term "termination of lease document" it sounds like you gave her official written notice of your leaving the premises on the 21st. Just because your meeting to do the walk through didn't occur when you had scheduled it did not mean that you were still living there. I would assume that the landlord would do a change of locks as a matter of course so I don't think the issue of the keys are involved (although she may could withhold money to cover the cost of the keys in the itemized statement, I suppose).

There is nothing in the laws about walk-throughs, that is just your way of protecting yourself and having a face to face meeting with the landlord to discuss matters of the disposition of the deposit.

I believe the calendar on the 14 days started running on the 21st. You stated you would be out on that date and she having that in writing can go into the apartment without notice after that date.

Wait and see what happens. Let the time go by and see when you get a response. I would suggest you contact her (by registered letter on the 15th of this month if you have heard nothing) stating that you want a full refund of your deposit based on the fact that the required two weeks have expired and she has not sent an accounting. You probably have a true case for the full refund if you don't get an accounting dated by January 4th (today!) so you could pursue action using that deadline if you wanted. I believe that would be how the court would see it.

Be sure to keep any envelope with a postmark showing the date of mailing as that is the date that is important under the law for sending your refund and/or accounting. Remember that if she is sending it to your old address and it has to be forwarded so it may take extra time to get to you.

If she is as unorganized as you portray her she will probably not get around to the whole matter by either timeline.

Awesome. Thank you!