Keep trying. Look for the right combination of factors that doesn't cause the poor child to freak out.

Are you expressing milk for bottle feeding? Is it the right temperature?

Are you using formula? That stuff smells nasty. Have you tried a different brand?

Have you tried different nipple types? Is the nipple too big or too small?

Is the baby easily distracted when feeding? Then turn down the lights, the t.v. or radio, shoo the dog out, etc.

Do Dad and/or Grandma use cologne? They shouldn't.

The trick is to get the most boringly inviting atmosphere for feeding. You may need to wait longer to feed just to make sure baby is good and hungry.

If she's hungry enough, she'll take a bottle. Eventually. At least, that's what I've heard from other parents with this problem. Once you get over the initial hump, it should get much easier.

You've probably already tried this, but squeeze a few drops out of the nipple so she knows it's in there. And, make sure the bottle is warm, so the milk feels and tastes like the "real thing".

I don't know if you have worked with any lactation or breastfeeding specialists or not in the past but the following website is a good resource for finding the right folks to provide research and experienced based answers.

http://www.breast-friends.org/pages/hospital.html

This is the page that shows the hospital based services but there are references to the La Leche League and other listings through the links on the left side of the page.

Many of the listings indicate that free phone consultations or other problem solving services are available.

Many experts would say that you waited too long to introduce a bottle to your kid, so you're going to have problems and this won't happen in a day. Will she take a bottle if you give it to her? If so, you can try getting her on the bottle, then passing her off to your husband.

Your kid is not only used to being exclusively breast fed, but also to your scent, sound, and general being. Dad and Grandma are quite different and probably confusing.