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What rules should we set for keeping an independent teen safe in the free-wheeling weeks of summer?

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  • Gold-head_small
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    By far the most dangerous thing that any teen ever does is get into a car. A sober teen driver is about as dangerous as I would be if I was driving drunk; a drunk teenager is a disaster waiting to happen. Make sure they understand that, and tell them to wear their seat belt, let the driver concentrate -- no horseplay -- and if anyone's drunk or high, even a little tiny bit, DO NOT GET INTO THE CAR. Call instead and you will pick them up wherever, whenever. They have to believe you when you say that calling instead of getting in the car with a drunk driver will get them into the exact opposite of trouble.

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  • Sakuraconbadgeimage_small
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    We have a responsible, independent teen and did very well last summer with these rules:

    1. Let us know what your plans are, and inform us (by text or phone) every time the plan changes or you change location.

    2. Either you are home by 6:00 for dinner or you call by 5:00 to let us know that you won't be.

    3. Definitely home by 11:00 every night. Call if you're going to be late.

    Our job is to raise an adult. That means ceding responsibility and autonomy to our kids as they near adulthood - not withholding it until the day they turn 18 and then suddenly dropping it all on them at once. We don't give them enough freedom to do anything that would result in long-term damage, but we do allow them to make mistakes they can learn from.

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