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Latex allergy, condom hatred?

When getting physical, I generally become really wet really fast. Then almost a minute after starting to have sex while using a condom I COMPLETELY dry up, then the amount of friction irritates me, and I'm basically entirely turned off. Is this because of the condom material, or maybe it's a mental thing that since I hate using condoms so much I make myself turned off, therefor drying up? I just want to be able to practice safe sex while simultaneously staying turned on and lubricated.

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  • Min-wage_small
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    I would suggest trying some lube first - I think it's pretty common to need extra lube when you're using a condom; I know I have to, even though I feel well-lubricated at the time of penetration but quickly dry up. As you note, too much friction is irritating and if you're turned off you won't be getting any wetter. Sometimes I'll need to stop and add more lube - I don't know why, it's only with condoms.

    I prefer to use nonlubricated condoms and a lube of my choice. For example I can't use anything with nonoxynol-9 spermicide - makes my vagina swell up for days. Finding a good lube and good brand of condoms requires some research. Babeland has always done me right; I can't speak for any other shops but the people at Babeland are super helpful, and they have a bunch of different condoms and lubes you can try in the store. You can also order them online but being able to feel them is very helpful in finding a good consistency.

    If the lube isn't helping, or you notice long-lasting irritation and/or swelling after sex, then you should try using non-latex condoms. There is the female condom, which Babeland (and maybe Planned Parenthood?) carry. There are also non-latex male condoms - I don't know of any good brands, but there are a lot of reviews on Babeland or other online retailers.

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  • 2008_0522stuff0016_small
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    Have you tried female condoms and other non-latex options? Female condoms look weird but really feel like nothing is there. You could also be slightly allergic to latex, which can cause discomfort leading to dryness.

    You need to use lube, dear. There's nothing wrong with you, your partner, or your arousal level that you don't stay wet throughout intercourse. It's perfectly normal to dry up as intercourse progresses. So, buy and use some lube designed for sex, not KY. It's not a failure to use lube--it's a tool for success.

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  • Safesexy_small
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    Whoa! I didn't mean to put you on hold for so many days. The likely issue is nonoxynol-9. It is usually coating the outside of a condom as a spermicide since things sometimes do slip...However it is a detergent. No, really! So it breaks down that useful moisture you put out. Try a non-lube and have a non-nonoxynol-9 lube handy just in case. Try a few different types. I bet there is one out there.

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  • Spaceship_small
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    We've had good luck with "Moist" as a lubricant that seems to last long enough.

    Don't use vasolene or an oil-based product with anything laytex. It will weaken or rot the laytex within seconds of applying, and you'll probably be looking at a rip, burst or failure when you least want one.

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  • 161348_686927418_1231577_n_small
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    Try Trojan supra's I used to date a girl allergic to latex, and they are polyurethane, so they worked out. Also, good lube can go a long way, KY is a joke. Check out PÜR, ya gotta get it a lovers package type of store though. Keep practicing, and let me know if ya need a hand ;) good luck

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  • 371331_561240229_943766066_n_small
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    i understand as a man it's even harder lol, guess i should say softer, sometime i cant stay hard during sex with condom and i never like the feeling however sometime i use them and my girl is the same, well guess i should say ex but we still speak so oh well, anyway we try tell pull out and that always work however there is a big problem with this system for a man (timing) if u get it wrong u may have a little one, and sometime u might want to come inside her i mean the feeling is great, but u need to remember little on, but in that moment that the last thing come to mind, just oh she is so nice or hot or some shit, guess if ur gay is oh he is so nice lol, man that weird anyway my advice is to have sex with then when ur finishing put it in ur mouth, nooo teeth plz,,, almost forget are u can do anal but i would say make sure u do a MOT first that a sexual health check up buy the way not for the cars

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  • Bierce1_small
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    Non-latex condoms feel better to both parties, anyway. Just find some nice ones at Babeland, they're sometimes stocked at the groceries as well. Also, have the lube on-hand anyway.

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  • Amy-small_small
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    I'd vote for latex allergy - so be careful! You might want to get allergy tested to confirm. It can get worse as you get older. And the allergy test will be on your back, not your cootch!

    Good luck!

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