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  4 0 1. Start small. Just try out small things that you can do that take control, and make sure that your partner responds well and is encouraging. Little things that you can try: moving his/her face with your hand to position it where you want it (for a kiss, to eat you out, etc.). Try moving the face up at a slightly uncomfortable angle and then move in for a kiss. Or tease - learn to go in for a kiss and pull back, restraining their head as they try to finish the kiss. Same with your breasts/pussy/anywhere. Make them push and squirm to touch you. 2. Watch pornography. Maybe not to get off, but to get ideas. A lot of domination is in the little things - stance, movement, confidence, actions. Watching good (NOT BAD) dominatrix pornography can give you the tools to start experimenting with your partner. It is a really funny thing, but half of dom play seems to be stylized - in that a certain stance can just DO IT - more so than any other sexual form. The way someone moves their hips, beckons with their arms, etc. is all very stylized and deliberate. Watch good pornography to see the forms. 3. Get some tools. Start small here as well. Maybe a nice bit of rope (see http://twistedmonk.com/video.htm). Maybe some hand restraints. Maybe a dildo or strapon if that is what you or your partner are interested in. 4. Be confident. The hardest thing, I think, for partners that are naturally submissive to do is to just "get in that head-space". I guess that is the best way I can put it. It is like jumping off a cliff - it's hard to do, because it doesn't come natural, but if you just let go and DO IT, it will become very easy. Having a partner that can also be supportive, and understanding of your mistakes will also help. Also, unless something goes seriously goofy, try not to laugh or make light of the situation. If you aren't being serious, it makes it hard to have the correct persona, and it makes your partner feel like they can't relax into their submissive side and they won't feel safe when they do (it's really hard to be submissive if you are afraid your partner is going to laugh at any time). Basil answered in Sex 8 months ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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