This is pretty much a direct way of saying, "I know that this is supposed to be about giving you a gift, but instead, I decided to make the occasion about my sexual desires. Merry Christmas!"

Btw, thumbs down not mine.

Totally!

I know that every time I tell my girlfriend how beautiful she is she always gets mad at me for making our conversation all about "my sexual desires" with my compliment.

And then she complains that instead of complementing her and sharing my heartfelt appreciation for her as a partner in my life and a partner in my bed I should just buy her things.

Maybe I should listen to her next time?

(But it is probably worth noting that I assumed that he would still buy her a nice set of pajamas - but that if he also wrote her a cute note and made her think that was the only gift before giving her the real one it would be a lot more meaningful than just a pair of pajamas)

much classier than Dick In A Box -- Thumbs up!

Giving your girlfriend an unsolicited compliment on how sexy and beautiful you find her is different than asking her what she wants for a traditional gift-giving holiday and then, instead of giving her what she asked for, giving her a box with a compliment in it that comes along with an implied expectation. Considering how many letters pop up on Savage Love from couples with mismatched libidos and how often one of the complaints is that the partner with a higher libido is pressuring the other parter, I think this was a risky suggestion and could easily be taken the wrong way by the wife in question. Of course, if you assumed that there would also be another box with actual pajamas in it, your comment irritates me less... but an empty box and a compliment with an implied request would be a pretty selfish gift.

If everywhere you look, you look for oppressive sexism and sexual remorselessness by men, then suddenly even the most innocent and kind acts by a loving husband start to seem oppressive and sexual.