l think this one is mushroom worthy, and l swear l'm not trying to crawl up Kip's ass right now, l just think it's the best answer. Just as l think the best way to step outside of ourselves when we are feeling too self-centered is to volunteer, l think the best way to invite something new or fresh to the relationship is to try providing it in some way. lt's hard to remember to do this sometimes, but worth it. Awesome answer, couldn't agree more.

I'm a little offended, considering mine is the only other answer. No, but seriously, this is a great answer. You have to make an effort to do something out-of-the-ordinary nice (even though it seems like the other person should, since they are the one being a dumbass).

Ah, yes. Instead I got drunk and threw a fit. Now everything feels weird. I think we're both in weird transitional periods, but mine is more of a frustration while his is more redeeming. I can't shake the feeling that something big has changed within him, but I don't know what and I don't know why.

Fun.

Well, you're involved. And being involved means -at least to some degree- that you should and need to know about each others' lives. So ask him what's going on. lf you can't shake the feeling, there's a good chance the feeling might be on point, and it's better to know what major stuff is happening to him than not, right? l mean, there could be several unsavory reasons for why he's not sharing it with you (and let's be honest, one of those being the state of your relationship, but the least of them being that it's not that big a deal, he just doesn't know how you'll react), but are you willing to risk them in order to know? lsn't it *better* to know, and to give him a space to talk about it? That way, you can give him whatever response he's looking for, and move on from this awkward and frustrating place. As l said, it may not be that major, he's just afraid you might not react the way he wants you to. Approach the whole thing with an open and willing attitude, and be prepared to support him in whatever he has to say.

Also, don't beat yourself up too much over the drunk and throwing fits thing. l've done that one more than l care to admit.