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  31 0 I don't understand why people can't just be adults about it and say "Hey, it was fun, but I don't think we should be having sex anymore," rather than ignoring them or coming up with excuses. Nick Nelson answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 3 comments by Santos, MyrnaMinkoff, and ozchick… 0 0 I agree. Being avoidant makes you out to be a dick, especially when being friends was part of the equation, with or without sex. Santos commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Yeah, this is my vote. I've been on the receiving end of this kind of conversation, as well as the weird silence/fading. Let me tell you, I'd much rather deal with the immediate rejection of being told things are over than left wondering why someone has suddenly stopped returning my texts. MyrnaMinkoff commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 I was not advocating the rude ignoring thing, just saying I was nice about saying, no thanks, not tonight/today/whatever. I've tried the whole "not wanna have sex anymore, thanks anyway" thing and been hit over the head with taking it all to seriously. no win. ozchick commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  13 1 It depends whether you're actually friends with this person or just acquaintances. Do you want to continue to spend time with this person when you're not fucking them anymore, or would you rather just let them drop and each of you go on your merry way? If you're actually friends and want to maintain/save that relationship, then it gets messy. You have to talk, and be truthful, and then there is usually some sort of period of low communication and healing and blah blah blah. Most of the time you'll end up friends again some number of weeks or months later but it takes work and compromise. If they're just an acquaintance and you have no interest in hanging out with them without the sexual pivot, then like ozchick said, let the fucker drop. If it turns out he has deeper feelings you may still have to stomp on his heart, but hopefully he feels the same way about you. Then each of you can go on to haunt other expanses of sheets, kitchen counters and backseats. Lilting Missive answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by freikja… 0 0 Hmm. Your second paragraph confuses me some. ls this your experience? Because if they are friends with whom you have sex, and you take the sex out of the equation, why would there be low communication/healing time? lf you're friends to begin with, but it definitely wasn't a romantic relationship, what's there to heal from? The only thing l can think of here is if your friend is especially sensitive, views you as more than a friend, or if it maybe has to do with the way each gender can typically view such a relationship. Am l warm with any of those? lf not, could you elaborate? freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  14 3 I would buy a cake from the grocery store, and one of those tubes of icing from the "candles & sprinkles" section. Then carefully write "THANKS FOR SEX" on the cake. If you have room, put "THE END" below that. Then just tell him "The sex is over, but you were great!" and hand him the cake. He may not like the end of the FWB arrangement, but hey, CAKE! Scalpel answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  8 0 My friend gave his FWB chlamydia. They caught it early, and he covered the cost of the prescription, and now it's two years later and they're still best friends. duckgirlie answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 3 comments by Geni, TVDinner Redux, and freikja… 0 0 I don't think I'd necessarily recommend that technique, however. Kind of specialized. Geni commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 You know, that's really heartwarming. TVDinner Redux commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Geni: NICE!! l actually did laugh out loud on that one. freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  7 0 I always demand a Bill of Rights upon entering any FWB arrangement, and the first is that either party can terminate the arrangement at any time for any reason with no questions asked. A simple "Hey, it was fun but I think I'd like to break it off now" and I'm outta there. This technique has never cost me the actual "friends" portion of the relationship. Jon answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 0 I'm a fan of honesty myself. I've been there and my reason for stopping an FWB relationship is usually that I want to move on with something more serious elsewhere. As long as you've been honest throughout your FWB relationship, and everyone knows that it's FWB and not a long term relationship typically something along the lines of "I've really enjoyed the time we've spent together but I'm interested in a more serious relationship and would like to stop the benefits but keep the friend" has worked well for me in the past. This is assuming you've been honest about what the relationship is the whole time. If that's not the reason you're breaking it off stick with the script anyway and just change the reasoning. "I've really enjoyed the time we've spent together but I've found God (turns out he was under the bed all these years) and would like to stop the benefits but keep the friend" would work just as well I suppose. Root answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Just Asking… 0 0 This seems like a courteous use of the campsite rule. Nice! Just Asking commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  8 6 Stop being available for sex. If they ask why, tell them. Geni answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Horrible Person… 0 0 Woah woah woah.....that is soooo....complicated. Horrible Person commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 I farted just as my boyfriend came , I already had- this was the most embarrassing moment - I couldn't even talk about it until the next day! Is this a deal breaker? How should I act. What should have been said and am I the only one that this has ever happened to? How does one forget something like this when seeing the other individual. MaRay El answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago | Report 3 comments by jendierock, jendierock, and jendierock… 0 0 seriously? who cares it ain't that big of a deal, really people do it all the time. take a beano before the romp in the sheets next time ;) jendierock commented 7 months ago | Report 0 0 seriously? who cares it ain't that big of a deal, really people do it all the time. take a beano before the romp in the sheets next time ;) jendierock commented 7 months ago | Report 0 0 seriously? who cares it ain't that big of a deal, really people do it all the time. take a beano before the romp in the sheets next time ;) jendierock commented 7 months ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 It seems to me that if there's any serious emotion involved in breaking it off with a FWB, then at least one person involved was deluded. StinkoDeMayo answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 6 Depending on how close you are with this person, I'd arrange a dinner out with them, and start into a frank conversation by saying, "Remember how we agreed that we didn't want this to go any further, and get entangled? Remember how we agreed that we'd be free to see other people... well: 1) I've found someone like that... 2) My new friend wants to be more exclusive partner with me 3) I don't want to hurt you but feel that we need to work out an end to this part of our friendship. 4) How do you feel about our relationship? Can you walk away? Is it still casual for you? 5) I'm afraid you're becoming more involved and invested than I am, and I'm afraid the day is coming when you may feel hurt. I don't want that." Choose the right line from above, and talk with them. People break up every day. It's how you do it that will determine if you will remain friends or sour the relationship. "Cagey" answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 17 I just let it die away. I come up with nice but not now reasons when he contacts me, and don't contact him. Cannot do a big break speech or anything, no basis, so just let it trickle away. What do you do, MM? ozchick answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 2 comments by TVDinner Redux and ozchick… 0 0 That's totally chickenshit. TVDinner Redux commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 so I'm not perfect. no surprises there. ozchick commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 17 I'm all for the dying away. Just, dont call for awhile, and if he/she calls just be busy. Eventually it'll fade. aquariancat answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 18 Say you got some rash that the doctor can't identify in your private parts. And if you try that let us know how it worked out. Cato the Younger Younger answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by freikja… 0 0 While not exactly the best advice (though l don't think that's what you were going for), this was pretty funny. freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  8 28 You gotta fart. Just a little toot or something while your having sex and I guarantee you two will not be having sex again. Johnathan Luft answered in Sex & Relationships over 2 years ago | Report 6 comments by Geni, freikja, and Johnathan Luft… 0 0 Huh. If I'd never again had sex with any guy who farted, there'd be a lot more one-night stands on my CV. Geni commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Well, now we know at least one of your supremely shallow quirks. Good luck in the dating scene - you seem to be unaware that an orgasm for a large number of women involves some pretty significant and uncontrollable pressure, and occasionally, it results in gas. Accidental, but unavoidable. Also typically a very good way to know she's not faking it, since most women aren't likely to freely and deliberately fart in the middle of a hot/romantic moment. Which is pretty funny, since if you actually dump any girl who has ever farted during sex, you probably dumped one who was genuinely enjoying herself. Good one! freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 I was completely unaware that a femal orgasm was directly correlated with flatulents. See I haven't had sex with a female since I was 17. I'm homosexual. In fact, I have never dumped a girl at all. Good one! Johnathan Luft commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Ah, l see. Well, l assumed (incorrectly, apologies) that since you were addressing a female, that this was a problem for you, which it may be anyway, regardless of gender. Have you dumped someone because of this? freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Well I did get a fart in my mouth one time from a guy I had only briefly dated. I didn't call him after that. It was just too rude to excuse. Johnathan Luft commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Well, yeah, that's a totally different thing, and even if it was accidental, l can understand not calling - the association is enough eww to present a problem. Sorry that happened to you, and for the misunderstanding. lt sounded like you were saying that farting in general during sex was enough to make any relationship unacceptable, which would probably leave one single for the majority of their life. Please excuse my assumption. freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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