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  • How do I let someone down gently when they ask for a letter of recommendation?
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    The point of an internship is to give somebody who's young and inexperienced a chance to learn about the working world. It's *expected* that interns are likely to be green and clueless--that's why they work cheap (or free) and why companies designate certain positions as "internships" to accommodate them.

    It's also expected that an intern is going to get some feedback that will make this the learning experience that it's supposed to be. If you're this woman's supervisor, it should come from you--or if you're not, you need to share it with the person who is so they can pass it along. Ideally, this will give her the chance to improve her performance before it's too late. It will at least give her a clue that, if she doesn't, she probably shouldn't ask you for a reference (or, if she's so dense that she asks anyway, it gives you something to fall back on when you tell her no).

    If your organization is taking on interns, then you owe it to them to really make this about learning (for them) as well as getting work done cheaply (for the organization). You'll be doing them a favor by helping them learn what they're doing wrong here, before they get out into a real, open-ended, no-modified-expectations job.

  • How do I stop being a worthless good-for-nothing procrastinating sack of meat?
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    Russ's advice about lists is right on, except for those for whom lists don't work. I've always been one of those, and I lived with a pretty bad slacker for three years who was also unfazed by lists.

    Really it's about habits and thinking through how much time a diversion can take, not how much you hope it will take or think it will take. No one has the self-control to always avoid diversions that take way more time then you feel like they should, but you can learn to minimize them.

    Get stuck talking to friends on IM when you wake up in the morning? Don't sign into IM.

    Turning off your internet access for most of the day is a great way to avoid that distraction. If you are the only one using your internet connection, that's easy: just unplug your modem/router. If you live with other people who use the same connection then it gets more complicated but most routers have schedules you can set up tied to a particular MAC address. I used to have my internet turn off at 6 am and not start up again until 9 pm. If I wanted to use the internet I had to get up early. If I really, really needed access during the off times, I would have to sign into the router and turn off the schedule, and that process was enough to keep me off MyFaceSlashWikiFarkSlog.com. If that's not enough, set your computer to not remember your router password and make it absurdly complex. You can always add another layer of complexity to make something more time consuming to do.

    It's about figuring out what your diversions and distractions of choice are and then structuring your life so that you minimize their presence around you. Another good example is I tend to be someone who is easily distracted by playing with my magic phone when I'm trying to read/write/do homework/whatever, so I bought a leather slipcase that covers the screen and turned off most of the audio alerts. That way I can't see the screen unless I'm using it and the extra step of pulling it out of the slipcase (which requires two hands or a hand and teeth) mitigates the ease of picking it up and diddling.

    When I just recently got a Netbook for school and work, I was careful to NOT put any bookmarks for personal/fun websites on it. Installing Linux also reduces my capacity to install distracting games and the like.

    Yes, there are an infinite number of distractions out there, and you WILL deal with multiple waves of them (turn off your internet and suddenly that 1200 page novel you've been meaning to read for five years becomes fascinating), but you simply have to deal with each wave in turn. It never really ends, but the further down you go, the easier it gets.

    And eventually you will recondition yourself so that you can control the urges most of the time. It will likely take years, and never be as easy for you as it seems to be for others, but it is worth it.

    A worthwhile distraction: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/06/this-is-why-ill-never-be-adult.html

  • Did you ever go to your high school reunion? If so, how was it? How can I decide if I should go to my 20-year reunion? Thoughts?
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    I've been to all of mine (10th, 20th, and 30th) and I loved them. But then, I was one of those strange people who actually liked high school, mainly due to the bunch of highly uncool friends I hung out with. We've gotten together at all the reunions and had our own party as well, which was the best part.

    For me, it seemed like the 10th and 20th reunions were mostly about people still posing and trying to prove they'd made it. People didn't seem ready even then to get out of the old cliques and talk to anybody they wouldn't have in high school. It wasn't that way at our 30th--people finally seemed to be over it. That was nice. I've heard other people say that happened at their 20th, but I guess my classmates were more desperate to make the point.

    Are there people who you'd like to see, and catch up with? That's what made the first two worthwhile for me. I found I didn't so much mind being around the ones who were real assholes to me back in school--they're mostly still assholes, but they don't seek our victims like they used to, so they just didn't matter anymore.

  • Should I start a catering business?
    Bauhaus_small

    Starting a catering business is very difficult, Rickler. Your client base has to hire you based on reputation, and you'll have to tread water while you build reputation.

    Here's what you'll encounter:

    Middle-class customers won't want to pay what everything costs. Something costs $2.00/person (not including your labor and profit) to prepare, they want to pay $1.25/person. Not only can you not sustain this for very long, you won't have any profit.

    In order to save money, customers will insist that a small lunch or appetizers will be plenty, and then the guests come and load up for dinner wanting to know what happened when the food runs out, and it'll be you that has to tell them diplomatically that the host is a cheap son-of-a-bitch. But you'll still be deemed the inept caterer.

    Rich folk will perhaps pay your price allowing you to earn a good living, but not until you have some star clients like when Martha Stewart took off when she catered for Robert Redford. She became "in." But you'll notice that "in" is fleeting, and she diversified early.

    Hate to be such a killjoy, Rickler, but do your research. Take a look at stats for caterers in your area. Remember, catering depends on the economy. When the economy is bad, even rich people cut back on the parties, and businesses do, too. But success is possible if you are brave and tireless and well-funded.

    Check into getting a SBA loan (the minimum used to be $100,000 which sounds daunting, but in the long run, you'll need at least that). Never use your own savings for a new business venture. Good luck!

  • what's the best way to learn a language quickly?
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    Other random ideas:

    In addition to using the various listening-and-repeat/CD formats, I'd suggest adding in some sort of workbook that has written end-of-chapter quizzes. While listening and repeat is great, I've found that there's something about writing things down that can't be beaten as far as later recall goes.

    I think the general rule with learning a new language is that it's not about learning from a single source: add as many sources as you can handle without overload: ideally they'll reinforce one another, words you see in one will pop up in another; grammar you learn from the written workbooks will be used in the more conversation-oriented CDs.

    So in addition to the CDs and workbooks, find out what Portugese TV stations and newspapers are online. Don't expect to get instant comprehension - or rather, don't get discouraged by the fact that initially you won't understand anything much at all, but you'll get used to the accent, for example. Ditto for looking up Portugese musicians and finding some music to add to your mp3 collection (and also try to find the lyrics online if possible).

    For basic vocab building, I've heard that one technique that works is to put post-its on everything in your house/apt with the word for it in the foreign language.

    Also, for fun, if you use facebook, set the language to portugese. You won't learn much, but you'll at least learn portugese for "messages", "events" and so on.

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  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
    Qlandav2ex_small

    Well it could have been you, if you had done the review of records that the state auditor did.

    The question was about whether most school districts are filled with corruption or not. My answer concerns that whole view and that public school districts are public institutions with public records.

    Your objection is that in one local school district that you know about there has been a bad case of wasted funds. That piece of knowledge doesn't negate the fact that public schools do public business and can be monitored.

    Why not write out an answer to the original question instead of lurking in the comments section?

  • Comment on The Doctor's answer…
    Bierce1_small

    Of course there's corruption, but it doesn't get rooted out because the attention is always misprioritized on the teachers themselves, not on the shitty administration.

  • Comment on sublevelthree's answer…
    Ava_small

    Yup. That's the front that helps pay the rent. There is a pirate store in the San Fran one and a superhero store in the NYC one. The Pirate one has a pufferfish cam so you can keep an eye on the mascot

  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
    Rex_racer_small

    ah but -if "Any citizen has the right to knowledge about how the public tax and levy dollars are being spent" - which citizen knew about Silas Potter/MGJ? -I might laugh here -- if it weren't for the millions wasted that never got to the kids.

  • Comment on sublevelthree's answer…
    Rex_racer_small

    haha- great minds -- the greenwood space travel agency IS ALSO the 826 group

  • Comment on Griffin's answer…
    Stuffie_small

    I completely agree with everything you've said about Everyday Math. The irony of this "close enough" approach is that students are really terrible at estimation. They aren't really taught to narrow in on an answer - even with Lattice Multiplication or Big Seven division - they are still taught to follow procedure. It's just that the procedure isn't very rigorous and inaccuracy is tolerated.

    Students end up with virtually no number sense.

    The only virtue of Everyday Math is that it is taught every day.
    I used to be able to ask my students who had math on MWF and half the class would raise their hand. TTh would be the other half.
    Now at least elementary school teachers in my district have a schedule to stick to.

  • Comment on Griffin's answer…
    Stuffie_small

    I really support the idea that statistics should be the zenith of high school math rather than calculus. Much more applicable for the average student in the average career, more accessible as well.

  • Comment on Griffin's answer…
    Cateyes_small

    What a great rant. I was lucky enough to go through elementary school before rote memorization completely fell out of favor (in the late 80's/early 90's). We memorized multiplication tables, the capitals of all of the states, etc.

    I took math all the way through Honors Calculus, and although I was never a huge fan, I very much enjoyed geometry, writing proofs, and other logic-based approaches to math.

    Where my math education fell down was in discussion or exploration of how professionals use math on any kind of day-to-day basis. I remember thinking in my calculus class, "who the fuck cares? When will I EVER need to know how to do this?" Instead, it would have been more helpful to see simplified engineering and science problems that illustrated where this math would have been used. Likewise, I would have benefited from seeing other kinds of math that are used commonly in professional and scientific settings, such as statistics and economics.

    About statistics, specifically, if I could go back and switch out this for my Hon. Calc. class, I totally would. I'm now in the position where for work I need to take a basic Stats 101 course -- beyond mean, median, and mode, I have no knowledge of this discipline. As businesses move towards data-driven decision-making, this is becoming a significantly more critical skill. And, I would argue, broad competence with statistics will serve most people FAR better than the ability to calculate the rate of acceleration of a spaceship falling out of the atmosphere.

  • Comment on The Doctor's answer…
    Rex_racer_small

    look up the "Pay for K" scam on the save seattle schools blog: there is indeed corruption and waste. even if its from ineptitude, still counts as WASTEFUL which was part of the OP question. kristin is right in worrying.

    (payPAMs has a 1.95 per transaction service charge for a $2.75 school lunch or monthly fulltime K fee, - we should have $1.4 million in income/payments from this yet there's only 1.2 million accounted for. the district has lost/can't find $$200,000? WTF)

  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
    Bierce1_small

    "I had watched about half of this documentary about the schools in New Jersey and turned it off in sheer disgust. If one can believe the documentary, there was a lot of corruption going on there."

    The solution is reform, not revolution. Our education is fucked, but private education is by no means incorruptible. It encourages it, like most other "free market" solutions.

  • Comment on Black Beetles in Amber's answer…
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    In a similar vein, I recommend Total Recall and EcoLights: http://www.totalreclaim.com/

    The Chinook Book is also a great source of info about Green businesses, many of whom offer coupons. They are online and also have apps for Android and iPhone: http://chinookbook.net/

  • Comment on Black Beetles in Amber's answer…
    Bierce1_small

    Thanks, I've been meaning to visit more of those businesses and going more off reputation so it's useful to have another personal opinion on Re-Store's goods :)

  • Comment on Black Beetles in Amber's answer…
    Finn3goof_small

    I like them, too. I've worked with folks from the Restore for years and i like them. I like the others too, but the Restore seems to take more chances on selling things that are not quite up to the quality standards that earhwise and second use must maintain. from a solid waste perspective, taking chances on marginal items is a must.

  • Comment on Tom's answer…
    Finn3goof_small

    Yeah, that's the root of the difficulty.

    My wife is from Eugene. Some (quite a few) of her friends grew up on/work on/own farms that are organic but they can not legally market their produce as organic due to the cost of getting certified (a simplification, but essentially my understanding). May of them now market themselves as being totally or inpart "biodynamic". Which is far stricter than organic. Biodynamic is trademarked but it is apparently rarely enforced on small farms by the trademark group, Demeter USA. That may be changing.

    Nonetheless, I will defend the use of "green" as a legitimate marketing tool for right minded businesses as it usefull to discerning consumers who have taken the time to be educated on the issues surrounding its use. It is hardly perfect. It is riddled with flaw and its legitimate meaning (in my view) is easy to obfuscate. But right now it's all we have...

  • Comment on Tom's answer…
    Bierce1_small

    "It is necessarily nuanced and no one agrees on what the baseline or ultimate criteria should be."

    It's about as worthless a phrase as "organic", as greenwashing has shown itself to be.

    Skip: How do you define "green"?

  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
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    I wasn't saying there is a secret conspiracy of people stealing tax dollars. I had watched about half of this documentary about the schools in New Jersey and turned it off in sheer disgust. If one can believe the documentary, there was a lot of corruption going on there. I was just wondering if that happens a lot and also the US does lag behind many other Westernized countries in terms of education. And, in my experience in higher ed. at least, it seems like a lot of money gets spent on sports and building new buildings, while actual academic programs get cut and student tuition and fees go up. Also, my mom worked for the school district and the support staff wasn't even really housed in minimally respectable buildings most of the time, and it wasn't like the teachers were making bank either.

  • Comment on The Doctor's answer…
    Photo_on_2012-01-03_at_17

    Thanks for insulting me with the Fox news bit.

  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
    Kendo_20dog_small

    Well, we do have a higher birth rate than many of the countries we're being compared to.

    Funding is often uneven in US, with a school in one district getting more money per student than a similar school in the next district over. I suppose that there may be some districts where every expense isn't strictly necessary, but there are just as many (probably more) that run on a shoestring budget.

    But no, there is no secret cabal of teachers and administrators stealing your tax dollars. The only school-related expense that really worries me is how much public colleges spend on their sports programs, and even then it's debatable whether good sports teams help bring in alumni donations.

  • Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…
    Photo_on_2012-01-03_at_17

    You could be right. I'm just wondering though...why does the US spend a lot more on education than many other countries, but then lag behind other nations in so many ways. AND, I don't think that good teachers are the recipients of increased spending...or are they sufficiently compensated? Does increased spending on schools mean that it actually goes to the classroom, or does it go somewhere else???

  • Comment on freikja's answer…
    Kermitsex_small

    By the way, you'll notice words like 'sacred' being used around the site; what they mean by that is communing with and understanding nature, and they will often incorporate traditional Native American, African, and other rituals that show an appreciation for nature and the elements. Even if you're not a spiritual person, it's pretty cool.

  • Comment on marymc's answer…
    Kermitsex_small

    Hahah! Me too, but sometimes l think the answer is obvious. :) Plus it makes us feel all warm and fuzzy when we get them, and importantly benevolent when we give them. ;)

  • Comment on marymc's answer…
    Subcultureoftwo_small

    My contrary ass dislikes being told when and where to mushroom.

    Regardless, mushroom!

  • Comment on Dan Williams's answer…
    Kermitsex_small

    This is a great answer as well. Also, the use of the word 'milquetoast', spelled correctly, helps, but l'm not biased.

  • Comment on Bauhaus's answer…
    Kermitsex_small

    You don't have to ask an intern to return. You only ask them to do so if you appreciate the work and are considering officially putting them on the payroll in the future. That's the point of interning; you learn something, but neither you nor the employer is obligated to make it happen again. Hopefully, it's mutually beneficial during the time you're there.

  • Comment on marymc's answer…
    Kermitsex_small

    Exactly.

    Mushroom.

  • Comment on Bauhaus's answer…
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    Yeah, the legal ramifications are getting so scary out there that many companies only will verify employment dates but will not give ANY kind of reference, even if the employee was great. IF the company is large enough to do regular written reviews, an employee can get access to those and use them as references. But it's getting ridiculous.

  • Comment on ozchick's answer…
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    I think the intern might technically be a Millennial, and not Gen Y.

  • Comment on Basil's answer…
    Subcultureoftwo_small

    Agreed. I've just never been in the character-builder role before, so I want to do it right. Thanks!

  • Comment on Bauhaus's answer…
    Subcultureoftwo_small

    The internship is a one-season thing, so nobody returns anyway. This is a hypothetical in case she asks me for a recommendation for a new job next season.

    No, I wasn't aware of legal issues around a bad reference. But I'd easily rather give no reference than a bad one or a neutral one (which might as well be bad), so I'm hoping to sidestep that eventuality entirely.

  • Comment on Bauhaus's answer…
    Enso_circle_small

    I hadn't thought of the damned with faint praise reference. Good idea.