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• Comment on Basil's answer…

  3 0 Hey, leave my loins out of it. :-) Christy O commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Basil's answer…

  2 0 Thanks, Basil, that's very helpful. I wasn't sure it should be treated the same as outwardly asking for a date, but you've convinced me. Christy O commented 11 months ago

• Comment on O my captain's answer…

  2 0 The reason "no thanks" seems harsh to me is they are usually not proposing a specific time, but more like a general "let's get coffee sometime". It just seems like the following exchange is kind of awkward: We should get coffee sometime. No thanks. This is typically a friend and someone who I like, just not "in that way". But I get a vibe like they are trying to hang out in a seeing-where-things-go-romantically sort of way, and I just want to nip it in the bud. But they're kind of protecting their ego behind a facade of "hey, I'm just asking as a friend" (which is perfectly understandable) so it makes me seem kind of rude to just say "no thanks" because I would never say that to a girlfriend who said "let's get coffee sometime". What I usually do is say "sure" and then always have an excuse when they try to set something up. That just seems dishonest and misleading, and it's also kind of exhausting for me, so I guess I'm looking for an alternative. Christy O commented 11 months ago

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  Any idea where to meet potential friends over the age of 40? Seattle Area only.

  0 0 Ok, I don't live in Seattle, but I am over 40 and have met tons of people via meetup.com (while doing fun things). Most of the groups that I'm in (movies, hiking, paddling) seem to automatically skew older, so I've expanded my social circle a lot since I joined. There's a meetup for just about any interest you have, in pretty much every big town/city (I assume Seattle is no different). Christy O answered in Relationships 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

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  My boyfriend is socially awkward. Help Please.

  1 1 I believe that social skills can (usually) be learned, making eye contact can be learned. If you talk with him about the ways in which his behavior puts people off, and makes you feel awkward, he may make the effort to work on it. Not saying that he'll be a social butterfly or ever really enjoy socializing, but if you don't enjoy having a wallflower fellow, then you're making all the sacrifice. I think it's fair to ask him to give a little, even if it's not his favorite thing. Christy O answered in Relationships 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 9 more answers »

• Follow Following 1 How to nicely say no to "hanging out". Christy O asked in Relationships 11 months ago by Basil & 6 other answers by Gloria , new york state of mind…

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  Where to start? Purge all of one type of item at a time? One room at a time?

  0 0 Sometimes an easy way to start is with just one drawer. Select a junk drawer or utensil drawer and remove everything. Clean the drawer and put back only what you absolutely need. Donate or trash the rest. Continue with another drawer on another day. Work your way to the closets. Do everything the same way - take everything out to start with. People who move tend to get rid of things because actually handling stuff makes you realize it's "dead weight". So this works the same way, helps you really evaluate what you need. Christy O answered in Clear the Clutter about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 8 more answers »

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  I hate my desk job, but don't have any other experience...what can I do to leave the cubicles?

  1 0 If I were you, I'd spend some time trying to figure out where your passions lie and what you want to do with your life. Reading books like What Color Is Your Parachute can be helpful, as can taking personality tests like Myers-Briggs (and there are employment books that come specifically from a "match your personality type" point of view). Whatever you're interested in, volunteer or join pertinent clubs. Figure out what people do for a living in those areas, try to meet those people, talk to those people, get tips on how to get into that line of work, or try to get a "foot in the door" job in that industry. You'll be much more attractive to prospective employers if you have a 20- or 30-year plan (or at least seem to, or think you do). This may not seem very helpful, because I'm basically saying "answer your own question". But really, you do have to answer your own question. No one is going to be able to give you a magic correct answer, because no one knows you like you do. You may change jobs 10 times in the next 10 years without finding a good fit, but you can save yourself a lot of bad jobs if you work on figuring this out now. Christy O answered in Un/Employment about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

• Follow Following 1 Is PMI certification valuable? Christy O asked in Un/Employment about 1 year ago by MyrnaMinkoff & 3 other answers by careers , Dan Williams…

• Comment on Leo Artalejo's answer…

  0 0 Thank you! We had planned to visit Hueco Tanks, but it had seemed like a lot of trouble, with having to make reservations and all. But maybe we'll reconsider. Thanks again for the input! Christy O commented about 1 year ago

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