Because God hates you.

Alternately, do you click "log in" from the Questionland homepage, or do you enter something, click post, and then get sent to the login screen? Your browser associates your login and password with a SPECIFIC page, not a general site. So, if you're logging during your attempt to post something, you're hitting a different URL every time; your browser is helpless.

I've always assumed it was in front-to-back order.

It's cliche but true: volunteer. I volunteer at the library and it's full of earnest, nerdy girl volunteers, ie, my tribe!

Figure out where your tribe is likely to be and offer your time.

They were never played *in*.

So ... yes.

It's tough and awkward and often prone to failure--sometimes catastrophic failure. Basically, it's kind of like dating, only with multiple people.

The best thing is find one of those super-social people and be friends with them, even if you're not particularly compatible, then glom on to any of their 14,000 friends who are actually cool.

It's pretty easy to befriend these super-social people, because, unlike us, they make friends (even with *us*) easily. You can find them at bars, at your work, at social events, in class, etc. Don't be afraid of latching onto them--they like it!