Second this. Their party package is truly excellent, and not that costly for what you get.

This answer definitely needs a mushroom.

I think I love you.

Thumbs-up for that last paragraph!

I always thought that was a hallmark of some South American and Micronesian cultures - or are those popular myths as well? I wasn't referring to the Romans, certainly.

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I would give this ten thumbs-up if I could. What a great answer.

Too many people get involved in poly for really horrible reasons. The classic one, of course, is "relationship broken - add more people." That's almost a guaranteed fail right there. You're right, the things that make a monogamous relationship a healthy one are the very same things that make poly relationships healthy. And the same things break either one.

That's what I see, too, more women than men driving the whole thing. Sure, there's skanky guys doing it to get notches on the bedpost, just as there are in the swinger community. But my own experience has been that the better-mannered men in the poly community wait for women to approach them. And almost all the well-known sex educators in this area seem to be women. You chief among them. ;-)

As to how time is divvied up, that differs for every poly relationship. In some cases, the answer is that it isn't divvied up - everyone comes together for holidays and special occasions. Some groups alternate them. As a dear friend put it: "love is infinite, time is not."

There's no one way that works for everyone. The "rules" aren't as clearcut as monogamous relationships, for sure - I mean, pretty much everyone understands the way those work (miss my birthday or our anniversary and you're in deep shit). Poly relationships that are gonna work are the ones where all the parties discuss those kinds of issues and come to mutually-agreeable compromises.