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  0 0 Well you were right about them selling out. I found a great thing and... they were out. BUT they are getting them back sometime (not scheduled yet) and they said they would put them aside for me (nice!). One Ikea person told me that they typically get their huge shipment in June - just in case anyone wants to check them out. infernactual commented about 1 month ago

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  What time are the sign-ups for the Crescent open mic tonight?

  0 0 Have you missed seeing a tired and grumpy Emmett host an open mic? Tonight is your chance with "Triumph and Tragedy" the Crescent Lounge Stand-up Open Mic at 7:00 (6:30 sign up), you can wash the bad taste out of your mouth at Jai Thai's Punchline Tuesday that starts at 9:00. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Triumph-and-Tragedy-the-Crescent-Lounge-Stand-up-Open-Mic/186853614689345 infernactual answered in Other Entertainment about 1 month ago Answer and comment »

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  3 0 It's such a hard thing to do and I wish you well. I really think you are smart to have thought it through, and if you have reservations now (not about him as a person, but the rest of it) then imagine what those might become as time goes by. Either way, I hope things work out well for you. You are young and clearly intelligent so the world is yours for the taking. infernactual commented about 1 month ago

• Comment on Kip Waddle's answer…

  0 0 Wow Ikea looks great. Can't believe I didn't think of that. I'll start there and move to the others if necessary. Thanks so much Kip. infernactual commented about 1 month ago

• Follow Following 1 Where can I get comfortable patio chairs? infernactual asked in Household Goods about 1 month ago by Kip Waddle & 2 other answers by internet_jen , O my captain…

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  Dating with a BIG age difference?

  4 0 I hate to be the wet blanket in this, and I really do empathize with the emotional difficulties, but it's really not a good idea IMO. As marymc points out correctly, anything can happen in life and finding a young partners is no guarantee of future health at all. But this is a case where the vagaries of life will only be an added risk to the absolute guarantee of aging. The average life expectancy of an American male 75.5. So you can plan on 20 years. You will then be in your mid 40's. That is really not a good time to be looking for a life partner. I don't have the stats, but I have heard that women over 40 have a dramatically harder time finding partners then those in their 30's. The data was based primarily on divorced women which no doubt plays into the results. So after 20 years there is a decent chance he has died or his health is failing and either he and or/you may wish he was dead. Do not look around at 75 year old guys to assess this because the ones you will see are the ones that are not in hospital, hospice, home care, etc. On the bright side, if he is generally healthy, you got 20 decent years. Many people do fine and then basically fall of the edge of a cliff rather than taking the slow route. But modern medicine has made that less and less likely. There is a decent chance you will spend at least a few years in hospitals as modern western medicine seeks to torture a few last years out of him. It is very hard to be logical when your emotions are strong, but health is only one aspect of the strains. being different ages will present all kind of relationship challenges. Was he married before, does he have kids, is he financially well enough off to retire, what happens when he retires and is kicking around the house, etc? People like to say that "life is short". The truth is life is NOT short, it is very long. In fact you can take all the sayings: life is short do this or that and change it to life is long do this or that - you will find it works just as well. I'm just a little younger than him and I can tell you that you may be "full of life" but biology is such that stuff is beginning to wear out - eyes, memory, metabolism, skin, etc. It's not bad if you are with someone in the same condition but a contrast is not flattering. At my age it is not uncommon to have bursts of energy and enthusisam (esp. if a young woman is involved) but it is hard to sustain (no double entendre intended). Given the volume of this post, I won't even delve into the myriad complications of having young children and having him die while they are in high school. Of course you could use Saul Bellow as an example and just jump right in. There are plenty of cases where this kind of age difference has worked out (although this one is pretty extreme) so it could be great, but not calculating the expected outcome would be ill advised and, I fear, too soon regretted. infernactual answered in Relationships about 1 month ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

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  How do I get my money back from Swerve & Gruv?

  0 0 I'm assuming you have asked them and they said no, because that would be the place to start (assuming you can find them, which shouldn't be too hard). If they have refused it would be good to know the reason why they refused and why they closed. If they went bankrupt then you almost surely are out of luck. If they didn't, then they would have a hard time not refunding you since that is a debt pure and simple. But, it would have to be a lot of money to warrant the effort that would be required to collect it. You could assume they were thieves and absconded with your cash or you could look at their closing as a hugely traumatic event for them where the world felt like it was collapsing around them and their dream was dying. Meanwhile they had to deal with leases, employees, business taxes, accountants, maybe lawyers and their life was utter hell. Though they should have called everyone, it is only the exceptional person who does the right thing and goes that extra mile when things get that tough - that's assuming they were organized enough to know who to call. Businesses that implode are often plagued with mismanagement. So, maybe try and call them ( the people who owned it) and see if they'll be good about it. Otherwise I'd feel sorry for them and just write it off. infernactual answered in Whatever about 1 month ago Answer and comment »

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  Following a question about where to buy used STARBUCKS equipment is there such and animal

  0 0 I'm not sure why you would want to restrict yourself to Starbucks equipment. There are a lot of cafes in Seattle and the non-starbucks cafes are more likely to go out of business than starbucks. Of course the best deals come from situations in which machines have NOT reached the end of their useful life at a cafe, but instead are being sold off in good condition. Strabucks also has a highly automated approach which is ok if you like that kind of thing, but not the usual for a real espresso aficionado. There are several places to get used machines at good prices - usually places that specialize in servicing the machines for cafes. Most of them advertise on craigslist or on their own sites. A google search will get you top ones in a second. I got my machine which is a commercial machine but perfect for home/office because it is not huge at visions. Here is their sale page but they seem to only have the really expensive ones available now. http://www.visionsespresso.com/catalog/180 infernactual answered in Coffee & Tea about 1 month ago Answer, comment & read 2 more answers »

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  1 0 Your avatar and food health comments make an amusing combination. While the former might bring into question your food judgements, for me it is the opposite because if you are going to choose a chocolate bar to favor that is the one - reinforcing your credibility in my eyes to no end. infernactual commented about 1 month ago

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  0 0 It definitely makes a difference seeing them up close but that's quite a hike. If you do plan to make the trip you will probably want to do some good advance work to see what stores have in stock etc. When I was looking the variation in what was on show and the costs was mind boggling. One of the most expensive aspects was not just material but the mechanism. Can you raise it and lowers it, do you have to pull a chord, etc. Good luck. infernactual commented about 1 month ago

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