It's your party and you can play whatever music you want to. You have an idea as to whether or not any of your company would be offended or annoyed by your selections. I think any of the more neutral holiday music that isn't specifically Christmas story would be best. However the holiday season is officially heralded in by Thanksgiving day so again in the end it's up to you.

I feel safer living in a *small* apartment building with no more than four other apartments. I like to know who my neighbors are. Big buildings contain too many unknowns. Not just all the renters but all the people those renters may be letting in. And a house just by itself can feel a bit creepy unless you're sharing with a bunch of other folks.

Good question. 80% gay/20% straight. I think the survey is a little skewed as so many people's adolescent behaviors differ from their adult/ideal ones.

Like B said. Saints are humans who are really really good according to the tenets of Catholicism. Jesus on the other hand by those same tenets is not human. (Fully man and fully God but not *human*) It'd be a little bit like nominating Yahweh for sainthood.

I think becoming a grown up is some combination of taking responsibility for one's choices good and bad but also developing a sense of perspective and proportion. Being focussed enough to go forward with your goals while realizing that the world isn't all about you. Also a strong sense of empathy is important while at the same time knowing that you can't even begin to know why other people are the way they are and it really isn't your job to figure them out. I think "becoming a grown up" can happen at any age or not at all depending on a person's life and experiences.

I have had some experience with the incoherent and unreasonable. Best strategy I've found is not to take anything personally. Let go of any ideas of "reason" or "efficiency". If your boss has a goal, it may be one entirely different from the one you suppose. Think of it as a kind of bizarre game and that maybe the person you're dealing with is a little crazy, like a kooky mother-in-law. Just put one foot in front of the other focusing on what you want to achieve. (Continued employment and less stress.)Also build savings so that if you have to quit (for your mental health) or get fired before your next job starts you'll have something to supplement unemployment payments.

No, not usually. Foot washing only comes into play when I've been at the beach or have worn sandals through a dirty hike. Whatever soils my feet after a day at the office I assume rinses off as I wash the rest of me in the shower. As far as what my cubicle does to my soul I don't think that can be washed off.

We're dreamers. We like to imagine other ways of being, other civilizations, other histories, different kinds of norms. Also a lot of sci-fi plays around with motifs about social change and acceptance.