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• Comment on Bion Satir's answer…

  0 0 Don't let your family's opinions dictate what you feel you should or should not do. Don't let other people's opinions do so either. Trust what you feel, yourself. Things get messed up otherwise. BasementDweller3 commented 20 days ago

• Comment on ozchick's answer…

  1 0 I'd agree with the low expectations. People who treated you like shit never, ever, ever, ever,ever make good in any way. That's movies. That's feel good TV shows. I have never had the experience of attempting closure with anyone remotely like this go well. For me, it has always made it worse, and I have never known anyone of this caliber of bad. I am not you. You may be stronger than I am, very likely you are. If you truly believe you can see him and not have it hurt you, that's fine and do whichever. It might be nice to see him and feel absolutely nothing at all, prove that he truly doesn't matter. This seems a minor point though, compared to the potential for pain. If it were me involved, I just wouldn't put money on it going well. There is nothing of parent, of dad, in this man. Whatever echo there might be, whatever farce he is pretending might exist in his head, is a lie. I know it is not the same, but my dad was beaten bloody by his father for fifteen years. Had to have his ear sewn back on. His siblings went to see his dad on his deathbed. They talk about how nice it was to see him at the end, blah blah blah. They watched this man beat my dad unconscious weekly. Starve him. Throw him out of the house in winter. He beat them too. My dad did not go. I know he did not feel nothing at the news his father was dying. But I do not think he regrets in the least not seeing his dad one last time. Don't let your siblings experiences dictate what you choose to do or how you feel. They are not the same people as you are. You get to make your own choice. BasementDweller3 commented 20 days ago

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  How much might I charge for a handmade plushie like the one pictured below?

  1 0 Kristin that is pretty awesome. I'd say, all the market can bear. Realistically it totally depends on how you are selling it/who you are selling it to/where you are at the time. Only way to find out is to try. BasementDweller3 answered in Making Art/Crafting 20 days ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

• Follow Following 1 How to really really clean a cast iron pan... BasementDweller3 asked in Cooking Tips & Tricks about 1 month ago 5 Answers by Russ Campbell, NWEBS, asteria , Griffin…

• Comment on Griffin's answer…

  0 0 And not being able to orgasm does not equal being bad at playing with yourself. You can be a pro-level masturbator and still not orgasm. It'll help if you stop making orgasm a goal, take the pressure off yourself. It's really not that big a deal. And whether you find you need a guy or not, that's up to you. You should be better at playing with yourself than a guy would be, you've got access to the equipment 24/7 and know how it feels. Also, not having orgasmed especially if you don't play with yourself isn't unusual at all. Young guys, especially teenage guys, tend to be hopeless at that kind of thing until you teach them how. BasementDweller3 commented about 1 month ago

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  I just lied to my employer about my job hunting. Was it the right thing to do?

  2 0 Always lie to your boss about this. First of all, pretty much everyone is technically looking, because who is really fantastically happy at their job? Secondly, it makes sense from the employer's point of view to get rid of you if you admit to looking, as it's tantamount to saying you don't want to be there. So they'll have you train your replacement and fire you for whatever imagined cause they'll find, and they won't be out a penny or an instant's stress. Always always lie about this unless the boss is a very good friend. Also, the boss knows no one would ever admit to this. So he's just hassling you. Which means you can ignore the "OMG I lied to my boss" feelings. They're silly anyway. Everyone lies to their boss. BasementDweller3 answered in Job Hunting about 1 month ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

• Comment on BasementDweller3's answer…

  1 0 Also, some deep positions might work just because your insides are at different angles. Mess around and figure it out. But tell him so he can help! BasementDweller3 commented about 1 month ago

• Comment on O my captain's answer…

  1 2 I would NOT "Oh Honey" him. I'd say/yell/scream "Ow!" or "Motherfucking GOD that hurt, you bastard!" depending on how much it hurt, and wriggle away. If he was too blissed out/self absorbed to stop I'd grab him somewhere he'd notice, like his throat or eye socket, whatever. Then I'd say in a very pissed off tone "I SAID OW GODDAMMIT" while clutching my abdomen, kicking and digging my fingernails into his carotid. I'd then definitely blame him for having an unreasonably large cock, possibly/absolutely insinuating he didn't know how to use it (and that his mom had neglected his education). At which point he'd better be super nice about it or relationship over. Later on I'd apologize for yelling but my insides were breaking, but only to be polite. He'd be more careful in the future and all would be ok. I think this whole thing would be a positive conversation for the guy even without the apology. And using your hands to block his cock from reaching full depth is only possible if you enjoy bruised hands/vulva. However, fingernails work great! Really, once he knows it can hurt you, he should make sure you are ok with several slow full thrusts before he goes jackhammery. It sucks, but doctors are bad at non-STD internal female pain issues. They don't usually have actual fixes for anything, but they should be checking to see if you are all right. BasementDweller3 commented about 1 month ago

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  Can a man damage your cervics if his penis is to long?

  2 1 Tell him it hurts you. He should stop. I hope you are telling him this. He needs to know. You'd stop if you were hurting him, no? Do not be timid about this. Make him adjust or stop when it happens, every time. Sex is not supposed to hurt unless you want it to. Stuff I've learned from my doctor, you should talk to yours: If it hurts and you don't normally have a sensitive cervix (cervixes can be touchy, mine has become so over time), it's not good for you, but not terrifyingly bad. You just don't want scar tissue/tissue adhesions in your abdomen (this is unlikely but possible), they can cause pain themselves and only surgery corrects that. Don't be scared - this pain happens every now and then to everyone if they're with a big enough guy, or if they misjudge how warmed up they are for sex, but if it's a regular thing (and it never should be since you should tell him and he should stop every time it hurts), that's probably not good. And actually, bleeding is probably ok (this can happen to some without pain) as long as it's not a lot and you should get checked out if any at all is happening as well in case of STDs (especially HPV) or pelvic inflammatory disease (very bad news). It's also possible he's hitting your bladder, which if full or close to can hurt (you might piss blood/pus, not nice to look at but also not inherently bad - just make sure it doesn't happen a lot, same reasons as for cervix). Ask a doctor/Planned Parenthood (you can call them if you want to be anonymous, or the San Francisco Sex Info Hotline (email them or call:415-989-SFSI (7374)(US/Pacific time)3-9 PM Monday through Thursday,3-6 PM Friday). If you want him to fuck you hard you need to only do that in positions that are shallower, like Captain says, or you can try one of those giganto cock rings that are the size of your hand, worth a shot. Also make sure he takes a lot of time on foreplay. He should be used to this kind of thing if he's that hung, as this has likely happened with other ladies before, and if he hasn't had this happen then he especially needs to know. He'll probably be proud. Worried, concerned, super careful not to hurt you, sure, but also proud. It might also just be that he's too big to fuck anyone hard, too bad for him. It's also possible you are more sensitive cyclically - track your cycle to see when you might hurt more, if there is a pattern he can fuck you hard sometimes and sometimes not. And finally, get STD tested just in case. It's not likely the problem, but if he is a new partner, and something unusual is going on with your junk, just to be safe might be worth checking things out. BasementDweller3 answered in Sex about 1 month ago Answer, comment & read 3 more answers »

• Comment on Christina L's answer…

  0 1 Or ginger pills you can get anywhere (supermarket, pharmacy, whatever). Watch out for itchiness if you take too many in one day though (minor allergic response). See if you can identify any foods, etc. associated with it and avoid them. BasementDweller3 commented 2 months ago

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