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  What's a good song to give my boyfriend a lap dance to?

  2 1 too bad about the no country advice-- I love "I little less talk and a lot more action"... but thats just me.. I think whatever songs you get, the important thing is that he's willing to do the lap dance. How cool is that?! Pepper Schwartz, PhD drpepperschwartz answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 9 more answers »

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  Girlfriend's unreasonable sexual demands killing my desire‏

  0 0 It seems like one of the purposes of sex has been lost between the two of you. Sex is a form of communication--and communion. In it's best moments it is an affirmation of love and trust. While sex can be just plain old fun ( an important part of adult play) if it only becomes a way to satisfy a sexual itch- or placate a partner- it loses all its magic. Things have gotten too mechanistic. I think you need to bring romance and intimacy back to your sex life- otherwise this demand-withdrawal squence is going to kill the relationship- and it sounds like the relationship has other strengths that you might not want to lose. Given that you have expressed some of this to your girlfriend- to no positive effect- it might be a good idea to go to formal counseling. drpepperschwartz answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

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  I cannot orgasm during sex unless I imagine myself as a man

  0 0 There could be a number of explanations for this- and all of them would take more in depth knowledge about you to get enough information to be hit the mark. But one idea might be that you need to get in touch with the masculine part of your personality to allow yourself the right frame of mind for sex and orgasm. That's fine you know.. your fantasy is actually not uncommon. Some people might think that it shows some desire to be another gender or to be a lesbian, but I don't think those are necessary conclusions at all. There is something very alluring and sexy about things that are exotic to us- and what's more unknown or different from women than a penis or male body? Getting into that body and getting the freedom of male sexuality ( to be wild, to take what you want, etc) is understandably exciting. I don't know if it has to take you out of the moment. Perhaps if you don't worry about it and just enjoy it- it won't take you out of the moment. It could be very cool to share this fantasy with your partner and make it a sexy and intimate moment between the two of you.Be careful though- some fantasies don't share well with all people; but hopefully your partner is sexually open enough to enjoy your sexual imagination rather than be frightened by it.. drpepperschwartz answered in Lady Sex about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

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  Strategies for making sex more fun when his penis is very large?

  2 0 Men with large penises may not know that their penis is exceptionally large. If they do know, they may think it is a guaranteed route to ecstasy for their partner because so much positive fuss is made over size. But the truth is that a man with a big penis has to be more careful than other men or he will cause pain and real suffering. Thrusting hard against the cervix can be very painful and even dangerous ( break blood vessels, even hurt the thin wall between the vagina and the rectum). You need to tell your partner to be gentle and to tell him when it's 'just right"- ultimately he wants to please you- and if you are flinching and yiping with pain- that's not exactly flattering.. Also pick positions where penetration isn't as deep or positions where you can control depth of penetration- this should help- but being honest and telling him what;s going on is the most important piece of solving this situation.l drpepperschwartz answered in Lady Sex about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 7 more answers »

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