About Susie Bright

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• Comment on Bauhaus's answer…

  1 0 I just met Jian TODAY for the first time, never knew him before. I said, "you are a dead ringer for this guy who just wrote me looking for sex." to say he was floored is putting it mildly. Dude, change your foto! Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

• Comment on Adam Washington's answer…

  0 0 I think this is a wonderful answer. You're hired! Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

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  What's the right way to ask a guy to hook up?

  1 0 I'm the most interested in the "at work" part of your question; it poses the most risk. You see him every day? Your peer, or your boss, or subordinate? How would it be to work together if you were in your lovers aftermath, whatever that looked like? Putting that aside, you ask him out for something innocuous, see how that goes, and if your bells are still ringing, then confide that you are inexperienced, but attracted. Don't tell him he's not boyfriend material, that's rude. As well as unforeseen... Your feelings might change. Sexual attraction goes a long way as far as compatibility goes. You're lucky he's older, he's more likely to feel sympathetic. The older like to help the young thru their embarrassments ;-) We find them endearing. People who don't date ,don't flirt, and don't have sex are often blind to one thing: potential rejection comes with the territory. You have to have a certain sense of humor about it, and the sex drive to persist in spite of taking a tumble now and then. There is no fool-proof way to proposition someone... That is part of what makes it so exciting. Susie Bright answered in Ask Susie Bright about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

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  Looking to fall in love, finally.

  1 0 I know you said you've never been in love before, but there was something heartbreaking between the lines. You lost your lover after 30+ years! She said you sexually disappointed her? Her new dude wants you out of the way? Jesus Christ on a cracker! I think you might want to get mad, have a good howl, and go on a bender. No one can just perkily step into the dating scene after all this. Connect with old friends, make some plans to do things you've always loved and maybe haven't made time for lately. Let the nature of your interests and pursuits lead you into social situations. Write a couple personal ads, laugh and tear them up. Then do one for real. This is a huge transition... It's not an instant fix-it. The fact that you want to love life, love someone new, is endearing and hopeful. You won't be the first 60yrold to be in this 2nd run... Not at all. I wish you the very best... Susie Bright answered in Ask Susie Bright about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

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  How do I find a sex partner? (really, I'm serious)

  3 1 Well first of all, I don't mind you paying a prostitute one bit. Tim Burgess' political influence will come and go but both your, and his libido will endure. Do you really want a sex partner or a romantic partner as well? That would make a difference in my answer. I am intrigued that you've tried a few different things— I want to know what didn't work with each one, and whether you gained any practical wisdom from those efforts. As for just plain ole hooking up, there are two things that are undeniable: Proximity is Everything— if you don't "hang out" with a set of people regularly, nothing will happen. Sheer familiarity and being within grabbing distance really goes a long way. 2nd, when you want to cut through special issues, like you have above (Asbergers, no alcohol, loud noises)— personal ads are brilliant. You are upping your statistical chances in a game of serendipity, by narrowing the field a bit. Your question reads like an ad... there are surely some women reading it, looking at your attractive photo, and wondering, "What's the catch?" When you've had sex, what feedback did you get from your partners? What do the pros tell you? Are you a considerate passionate lover, are you "good in bed"? Where do things go off the rails for you? What you're saying so far seems... too easy, as if everyone is being ridiculously picky and you're a fine catch who is the unfortunate victim of boozy loud disco queens who reject you. There has got to be more to it! Susie Bright answered in Sex about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 8 more answers »

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  Can I get Herpes if I give my partner a blowjob?

  2 0 Hi Page One: I'm on my way to Seattle right now, and if you see me I will answer you question in even more details. The answer, as our comrades below have detailed, is YES. However, you should know that sex educators always make a face when people ask this question, because it belies a great deal of public misinformation on the herpes virus. Herpes and the common cold are the most common virus humans share. Here's the deal: If you haven't been locked in a bubble all over life, there's a very good chance you already have herpes. You may be asymtomatic as yet— you can be for years. You might never have an outbreak. It's a disease that has its little "bursts" when your immune system is stressed— that's why people often get "a cold sore" (herpes) as a prelude to getting a bad flu, or why women suffer so much more from herpes outbreaks because they tend to arrive with every menstrual period. You could get herpes from kissing, wrestling, damp towels, the famous toilet seat (although that would be rare) humping, all kinds of skin and sweaty-issue contact. And depending on where the contact is, it can appear anywhere on your skin, not just your genitals. Yes, it has a slightly different name when it's on your genitals, but that is splitting a hair. The relief/protection is the same, no matter the patch of skin: prophylactic and treatment-based use of the drug acyclovir, which also gets called names like "famvir" and the popular brand "Valtrex." Valtrex acts as a powerful brake— it doesn't eradicate the virus, it just "stops symptoms cold." HA! Sorry for the indulgence in drug ad patter. It also protects you from GETTING the virus or GIVING the virus, if used prophylactially. The darn pills should be over the counter and handed out like M&M's. Here is much more detailed info— I've written about this at length! Susie Bright answered in Ask Susie Bright about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 4 more answers »

• Comment on Susie Bright's answer…

  0 0 I don't think you had a very good gyno appointment, btw. I say, get a new doctor, or go to a PP clinic or someplace that is not insinuating you got a vaginal infection because you slept around. Good grief. Next, simple anwers. Gloves are to avoid blood infection. Got cuts on your hands? Is your girlfriend menstruating? Just think about it real simply... blood, open wounds. COndoms are so thin they're hard to cut open and use suavely... saran wrap works better. Or a dental dam. They're thicker. YOu didn't get a bacterial vaginal infection from muffdiving. Go look at some real basic STD and safe sex sites. There is nothing special about lesbianism, vis a vis safe sex. "Safe sex" just means harm reduction. It's like deciding whether you're going to sneeze in public or cover your mouth with your sleeve. Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

• Comment on K's answer…

  0 0 NO, I didn't, this format obscured your answer to me. I went back and answered with the info you gave me. Sorry for misunderstanding. Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

• Comment on Susie Bright's answer…

  0 0 Your vaginal infection was unlikely to be caused by "cooties" from anyone else. The same would be said of candida, bladder infections, and other infections women often suffer through. "Practically" speaking, your suseceptability to HIV, gonorrhea, and sphyllis, is largely determined by your zip code. Are you in an area where there is an epidemic? Use condoms and avoid blood and semen contact. If you are fanatical about other people's fluids, you can do the same thing dental hygenists and paramedics and doctors and nurses do: Use PPE, "Personal Protection Equipment." But you will be considered bizarre if you do this in a low-risk lesbian community. the thing you are most likely to get from lesbian sex is: a common cold, and herpes. But I would say that about anyone, not just lesbians. Herpes doesn't need sexual contact, it travels more easily, through skin and surface contact. If you are concerned about THAT, start taking acycolvir prophylactically. Ask a PP clinic, or your gyno, to give you the basics of practical STD prevention. You are one of the "worried well," someone who has not been exposed to a lot of sexual activity or basic sex ed, or science education. You might want to take a community college class in biology or physiology, or health science. Good luck and happpppy dyke sex ahead of you! Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

• Comment on K's answer…

  0 0 ,Kristin and LoveofMystery are correct. I call "foul" on this whole question. Susie Bright commented about 1 year ago

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