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  • How do I get a roll of quarters?
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    Have you considered an account with First Citywide? (http://goo.gl/5V8A)

  • Do you tip when you get take-out?
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    Without getting too "Mr. Pink" here, I think this whole "tipping automatically thing; it's for the birds". That said, I still find myself in the apparently small minority ponying up nearly the full normal amount, for the following reason:

    I remember getting really irked one time when I was getting takeout (Cafe Minnies' Tomato Basil soup) and finding that they'd charged me a 15% "takeout fee" - not to cover the cost of the bowls/spoons/etc, but to cover the lost tax revenue for the servers.

    I guess the restaurant had been "estimated" by the IRS as having an average of 15% in tips - therefore, for any server's transaction where they DON'T get tipped, they are (potentially) losing money, unless they meticulously document all year (which, I guess it could be expected that Cafe Minnies' servers did not). Not to mention that most waitstaff "tip out" their busboys, cooks, bartenders, etc.

    I personally actually hate tipping for all the reasons everyone else does - it's unfair to "fast-food" staff, it obscures the cost of food (the Ticketmaster effect), it introduces the concept of guilt & expectation, cajoling and power-play, into something that normally would feel like a delight.

    I hate that if I DON'T order booze immediately (or god forbid, ask about using a discount card), I'm immediately profiled as a "bad tipper" not worthy of good service (even though despite this self-fulfilling prophecy, I pretty much always tip well anyway, if only to counter the stereotype).

    My girlfriend was once followed out of Bimbo's and harrassed by an utterly incompetent and inattentive server after leaving *only* a 10% tip. (Believe me, she's not cheap - you'd have to hear the full story to realize how outrageous this was).

    Point is, the way I see it is that given the system servers are in (which I wish I could change), I generally tip somewhere in the ballpark of 20% (in cash, whenever I can), UNLESS THEY'VE PROVIDED ME DEMONSTRABLY BAD SERVICE - even if the amount of that service is no more than bagging up some styrofoam or popping open a can of Rainier.

  • What are some sexy movies (NOT porn) I should bring on a romantic weekend getaway?
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    Funny: a friend who does a "sexy movie night" just asked me that same question (the first 4 showings were "Shortbus", "Secretary", "Lust, Caution", and "Vicki Cristina Barcelona")

    To many of the good suggestions already here, I'd add:
    Sirens
    Bound
    The Lover
    Dry Cleaning
    Risky Business
    Like Water For Chocolate
    Sex & Lucia
    Henry & June
    Kama Sutra
    Swimming Pool
    Pillow Book
    Eyes Wide Shut
    Splendor
    Closer

    Or the old standbys:
    The Big Easy
    Last Tango In Paris
    Body Heat
    Unbearable Lightness Of Being
    Two Moon Junction/Wild Orchid/9 1/2 weeks

    and so on...

  • Is there an eating place in Seattle that has curtains that pull across the booth for private times?
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  • Do I need to worry about paying parking tickets issued by Diamond Parking?
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    I'm with Lily on this. Everyone is keeping track of anything that could be an accounts receivable. Contact them (in person if you can) and take care of this immediately.

    My horror story: In 2004, I paid for a space in a Diamond lot, but got a ticket anyway. I printed out the charge on my credit card & sent it back to them with a note showing that the charge wasn't valid. Got no response, so I figured everything was OK.

    2 months ago (mind you, OVER FIVE YEARS LATER) I get a bill from a collections company trying to collect on the fee-plus-late-fees. I sent a letter to THEM telling what happened - their response: send us the same credit card statement or the bill accrues more interest.

    Companies bank on it being harder to prove you don't have to pay than to pay - and also that you'll delay paying (and accrue more fees) because of the initial outrage you'll feel at paying for something you don't owe.

    Deal with it now, and make sure someone tells you it's done (and get their name).

  • Where can I get cheap DVI -> HDMI cables -- or any electronics cables -- for cheap near downtown Seattle?
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    You can't. Don't waste time trying to get ANY cables locally unless it's an emergency and you don't mind paying 3-4x the online/eBay prices. Fry's in Renton might be closer to 3x than 4x, but when you factor in the gas consumed for the round-trip, it's pretty much a wash.

  • Polyamory: is it bullshit?
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    I don't think something becomes bullshit the moment someone misappropriates the term (see "indie rock"). it only proves the term is accepted enough to appropriate.

    Like @Breklor, I've got a group of supportive poly friends, and have seen both healthy and unhealthy examples of same. They end up getting together and breaking up at about the same rate as my monogamous friends, and for the same core reasons (though the symptoms may end up manifesting themselves differently)

    Like @Karla, I understand the "monogamy cause the ROI for polyamory isn't worth it to me" argument. You have to deal with the bullshit of TWO (or more) people instead of one in order to get the positive aspects of being with multiple partners.

    Wouldn't agree with @James about his "9/10ths theory". I feel like the negatives are overly represented because stories about "successful" poly relationships aren't nearly as compelling as anecdotes starting with "OMG so I once dated this Poly guy..."

    Another reason this gets skewed is that since polyamory is the exception rather than the norm, we're far more likely to blame the system rather than the (douchey) PERSON who might be drawn to it. If someone cheats on you, you don't call it a failure of monogamy and retreat back to the "safety" of polyamory where your partner would be able to be honest with you about their needs.

    Or maybe we just need to give everyone a pee test for vasopressin levels . If science determines that monogamy is clearly caused by the same hormones that predispose people to be drug addicts, would that change the discussion at all?

    Either way, I think this dialog is kind of interesting.

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