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  0 0 Intense like, I don't even know really. It is just what some people have said to me - that I am intense. I guess because my whole motto in life is that it is short and if you want something and it works, reach out and grab it. I am assuming to some people that can come across as a bit full on but I've experienced both the death of my mother and my sister and was forced to grow up pretty fast. I would say I have pretty high emotional intelligence and am not afraid to voice what I want. All of this can come across to someone that has not had the same experiences and simply does not understand me as being intense. I am a pretty outgoing, jokey kind of person but sometimes if I am just still and observing, listening I can come across as maybe a bit hard. I know I have a bit of a wall around me but it comes down when I feel it is safe to let it. It isn’t exactly that I think people pretend to like me as whole, lots of people like me it is just recently all of the rejection I seem to experience has started to take its toll on me and I feel like maybe I am cursed. I keep having to remind myself that there is nothing wrong with me, that it is them. Blah, blah, blah and I am getting a little tired of it. And the convincing is starting to wear thin and I am starting to feel like I will never connect romantically with anyone. I guess it feels extra hard at the moment because the last girl I was seeing is the first person in a very long time that I actually WANTED to let in and be with. I really felt that she liked me, you can tell these things but maybe I am confusing that like, maybe it was just a physical like and not an emotional one (as in, she liked having sex with me but didn’t really like ME). I don’t really know and since she wouldn’t sit and talk with me about it I guess I will never know and I have pretty much let the idea of ever finding out or seeing her again go but I don’t want this to keep happening. I deserve to be with someone that wants to be with me because they enjoy me as a person and as a lover. I am just having trouble trying to break the pattern. I am obviously attracting certain kind of women (or are attracted to) and I need it to stop. I want it to stop! The hard part is knowing how. I mean when you meet someone you don’t know that they are that kind of person straight up. It is hard to tell and I have this personality where I want to give people the benefit of the doubt an believe that something good can happen but without sounding negative and poor me poor me, it really doesn’t happen for me. Elainebenes commented 4 months ago

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  How do you get over someone you don't want to get over?

  1 0 As lame and typical as it sounds.Whenever someone hurts me or I find it hard to let go, before I go to sleep I take a breath and say to myself "I let go. I choose happiness" and wake up feeling fresh and more clear minded about things. I also think it is really good to almost cut these people out until you feel ok about having a friendship with them. Also, don't feel that you have to be friends with this person - I have this whole new motto this year which goes a little something like this "if I am not good enough for you as more than a friend then you are not good enough for me as my friend". Harsh but it helps. Chin up. Elainebenes answered in Relationships 4 months ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

• Follow Following 1 Why do I always attract all the wrong women, is it me? Elainebenes asked in Relationships 4 months ago 2 Answers by Black Beetles in Amber , mizmojo…

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