A shawl and/or hat, or perhaps silk scarves if that's the way her tastes run. They're good for keeping warm and covering a sensitive scalp.

A visit from a local (to her) mobile manicurist might be appreciated if she's been unable to get her nails dealt with lately.

A massage therapy session.

A long call the day of and a promise to visit her as soon as you are able.

Cast iron will never wash completely clean. It just oxidizes that fast. Don't worry about the oil coming off black--it's supposed to do so. Just go ahead and season the pan.

That black stuff is why cast iron cookware is good for people with anemia--the pan leaches iron into the food cooked in it.

Enjoy your thrifty find.

OK, firstly. Go get yourself on some sort of birth control (I recommend an IUD, because they last for years and you can't forget to take them) so if a man presents himself you don't wind up with another kid.

Secondly, no sex toy, no matter how awesome it is, will give you an orgasm if you won't "play with yourself." You have to be familiar with how your genitals work and what feels good for you before you can convey that knowledge to any future partners. For many women, learning how to masturbate takes a long time, mostly because we are socialized to believe that good girls don't like sex, our vulvas are gross, and masturbation is sinful/dirty. None of this is true, but it can take a lot longer for women to figure out how to masturbate than men. I once asked a bunch of people in a coed dorm at what age they started masturbating. For the women, if they did it at all, they started at 17-20. Men started at 12 or younger. Go figure. So, practice, practice, practice with fingers and lube first.

Thirdly, don't make the mistake of assuming vaginal penetration=instant orgasm. It doesn't. Don't go buy a dildo and expect that lying back and inserting it is going to do anything. Most women need some sort of clitoral stimulation for an orgasm. See point above, and practice alone, then if you want to, add in a vibrator--start with a bullet style, not a rabbit pearl, and don't use it on high all the time or you'll numb yourself to the sensations a partner can provide (no one's tongue or fingers moves at 6000rpm.)

Finally, masturbation will provide an outlet for sexual release but it won't outright replace partnered sex for most people. That said, masturbating can help you improve partnered sex. And it's fun.

What did you quit cold turkey? Booze, smokes, an ex? This makes a difference in the advice.

There's probably more radiation coming from your smoke detectors than will be residual in any hard goods you get from Japan. Unless you were buying uranium, there's not much to worry about.

Talk to him, and get yourself sterilized, either permanently or temporarily, so that you don't have another kid with this guy. The first 6 weeks post partum are a great time to get pregnant again, and if he's shirking kid duties now, he's not going to get better.

As for talking to him, does he know how to take care of a baby? If not, get him to parenting classes rather than taking over everything for him because "he's doing it wrong." If he does, tell him that there are no vacations with 4 week olds and that everyone is tired and cranky. Get his parents on his case too. Enlist as much help as you can muster.

Failing that, do nothing for him, by which I mean, don't do his laundry, cook or clean for him, and so on. Let him take care of himself, since you've got to take care of you and your little one. He'll either step up or live in filth, but then it's his choice.