Just a little friendly advice on the subject of grammar:

1. Use spell-check. Most browsers have spell-check built in; I use Firefox and I get a squiggly red line whenever I make a mistake. This will help you catch typing errors like "maby" instead of "maybe" in the title of this question.

2. Break up your run-on sentences. One long sentence with many ideas is harder to read than a few short sentences. For example, this question could be three shorter questions: "At what point do people not post their questions here? Is there a point where people think it`s maybe too personal? Is there a limit?"

I`m not trying to be pedantic, I`m just trying to help!

Re: the Fujiwara vs. Kato thing

Fujiwara　(藤原) and Kato (加藤) both use the character 藤, which means wisteria. This site ( http://ekamon.hamazo.tv/c544623.html ) says that the maru-ni-sagari fuji (hanging wisteria in a circle) is the most common crest in Japan, and is the family crest of the Fujiwaras but is also used by many other clans that were vassals and descendents of the Fujiwaras and thus adopted the wisteria character into their own names: Kato, Saito, Ito, Kindo, etc.

"Cooked tomatoes (marinara and tomato sauces) are sweet to the taste and corn is high sugar also. "

I was told that cats don't care about sweetness - that their tastebuds don't pick on sweetness very well, so they don't go nuts for sweet foods the way a dog might. Is this not true?

Hmm, good points. I guess I hadn't thought through all the implications of just how lazy he must be to oversleep like that.

It sounds like everyone's in consensus that I shouldn't bother with Mr. No-Show anymore. It seems obvious when everyone points it out like this, but I guess I was too tangled up in my own thoughts to see clearly. Thanks for the fresh perspectives, lovely Questionland people!

oh shit, i didn't look too closely at that author. i just searched for a summary of Leyner and Goldberg's explanation of the nipple thing.

I say they're basically female because the Y chromosome triggers the hormones that cause male sex differentiation; in the absence of those hormones the embryo will develop into a female. Female is the default form, and extra hormones are needed to develop into a male.

from http://www.narth.com/docs/berman2.html :

"we all begin life as a proto-female, and that a few males end up with a low-masculinized brain. What is the evidence that life begins for all of us as proto-females? We all have nipples, that's the evidence. As Leyner and Goldberg put it, "During development, the embryo follows a female template until about six weeks, when the male sex chromosome kicks in for a male embryo." But before the end of the sixth week, a pair of sweat glands on the chest has already begun to differentiate as nipples. All infants are therefore born with nipples and some breast tissue. As they approach puberty, the female hormones that course through the bloodstream of girls reshape their body in womanly ways, including the development of their breasts. Males are left with vestigial nipples, a reminder that life begins for all of us as proto-females, and some of us are fated to become more masculinized than others."

Already read it, and as I said in the question, I'm mostly looking for English language works. No shroom for you!