Yep, this place is the real deal. You walk through the cafe into the back and watch them making the tofu while the little old lady fills your order and makes change from an old wooden desk drawer. Don't go there if you're in a hurry. The tofu is delicious - so creamy. They also have fresh soymilk, steamed flavored tofu, and a short menu of other stuff I haven't tried yet.

You might want to check out Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch [http://passionatemarriage.com/]. It's a really perceptive look at the intersection between sexual problems and marital problems with a focus on regaining sexual interest in a long-term relationship.

Paul: You're on the right track. I've read both Couch and The Brief History of the Dead and really enjoyed them. That's exactly the kind of stuff I'm looking for. Do you have anything more in that vein I should try?

I've never read Dick and as for Murakami, I loved What I Talk About When I Talk About Running but I've never read any of his fiction. I guess I had the impression that their writing was more philosophical/metaphorical/thought experiment-y than I usually like. I like to read stuff that makes me think, but not at the expense of good fun storytelling (for instance, The Children's Hospital, which never went anywhere.) But I will definitely check them out on your recommendation.

Thanks for providing this excellent public service :)

-Reed