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• Follow Following 1 Should psychotherapy become common? internet_jen asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago

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  how is it that you have such a nasty reputation for hating fat people?

  2 2 Because fat people are SO FAT AND STUPID! Well, some of them. Just like some skinny people are fat and stupid. It's just that some folks can't take a joke and others don't want to listen to what I have to say and so insist that I hate all fat people—or all straight people or all gay people or all black people or all HIV+ people or all leotarded people—so that they can ignore my legit, non-jokey points. But I don't hate fat people. I feel like I am a fat person. Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

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  Best way to let a guy know you are on your period when it is a one night stand?

  1 0 Best to give him a heads up before you give a clown nose is appropriate, I think. Best way: "I'm having my period." Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

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  Are you almost done?

  0 0 Sigh. Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

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  Why do you always post music posts on Slog instead of Line Out?

  7 2 Line Out? What's that? Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

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  Being a surrogate/co-parent

  0 0 Well, a surrogate parent is very different from a co-parent. Most gay male couples who go the surrogate route do so not just because they a biological tie to their child, but because they want more autonomy than an open adoption or a co-parenting relationship typically allows for. Surrogates aren't typically involved in the lives of the children they bear for other couples. I think you should read up and the options that are available to you, talk to other surrogate mothers, and be clear about what it is you want: if you want to be a co-parent, then that's what you should seek out. Don't get into a surrogacy situation in the expectation that the couple, gay or otherwise, will want you to be more involved in the child's life once they realize what a wonderful person you are. There are couples out there—gay and otherwise—who would like to co-parent. If that's what you want, that's what you should seek. Dan Savage answered in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago Answer and comment »

• Follow Following 1 how is it that you have such a nasty reputation for hating fat people? Melisande Noe asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago 1 Answer by Dan Savage…

• Follow Following 1 Best way to let a guy know you are on your period when it is a one night stand? kittykat_nola asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago 1 Answer by Dan Savage…

• Follow Following 1 Are you almost done? Nancy asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago 1 Answer by Dan Savage…

• Follow Following 1 Why do you always post music posts on Slog instead of Line Out? Grant Brissey asked Dan Savage in Sex & Relationships about 1 year ago 1 Answer by Dan Savage…

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