If you go out with me next, yes. I'm way way better.

Capitol Hill. I'm a straight guy and get hit on by other guys just walking around, doing errands, etc. Some typical places work too: laundromat, grocery, on the bus, bars...pride weekend is in 2 weeks and probably isn't a bad place either.

It disturbed me because I've been connected to two other senator deaths in plane crashes.

I had a whole blog on pet peeves once, but people talking at movies is a big one.

What if he has an open marriage and you just come across as a prude? Nobody's business.

This is merely a partial answer, but it often involves a strong fear of conflict and a depressed sense of self-worth or self-confidence. It's kind of juvenile and immature, but quite common in Seattle. There's a continuum:

<===Passive===Assertive===Aggressive===>

Ideally, you want to be assertive most of the time and not very passive or aggressive. SCCC among other places offers assertiveness training.

No one in the history of humanity has EVER done this before! You are a freak and have sinned against your creator and must now say 50 Hail Marys.

Try Meetup groups. They cater to all kinds of different shared interests. And remember that Seattle is a city of introverts--there is no freeze, we're just not naturally outgoing most of the time.