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  Where's the best place to watch the pride parades here in Seattle?

  1 0 The parade starts at 4th and Union and ends at 4th and Denny, and anywhere in between where you can find a comfortable place to hang out and watch is where you should go. David Schmader answered in Gay Pride 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

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  How can a straight woman help a gay man through a break-up? Anything specific I should know about LGBT break-ups (as opposed to hetero break-ups)?

  4 0 It sounds like your friend is in that stage of post-breakup heartbreak where you don't want solutions or suggestions or help, you just need to vent, and any problem-solving or solution-suggesting is annoying, regardless of straight or gay content. Listen, empathize, and feel free to let your mind wander if he needs to tell you same complainy story a few times. He's just working through the shit. David Schmader answered in Gay Pride 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 3 more answers »

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  How do I find out if my relative is gay?

  1 0 Adrian's ultimately right, but it's still a touchy situation in real life. I second the idea of you creating an environment where this person feels comfortable to come out, when and if that's in the cards. Mentioning gay friends, denouncing anti-gay insensitivity when you encounter it, and normalizing the whole subject matter above and beyond what any specific family members may or may not want to do with their genitals is probably the most gracious thing you can do. David Schmader answered in Gay Pride 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 7 more answers »

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  Is it acceptable to tell your gay neighbor that taking his male cat to the dog beauty salon is "so very, very gay"?

  4 0 The answer to your question resides in the emotional space between you and your neighbor. Are you close enough that such possibly insulting mockery lands as loving teasing? If so, go nuts. If not, it's probably not worth the risk. (Joshing like that is a privilege, not a right.) But should your tremendously gay neighbor make fun of his own gayness, it is your responsibility to chime in, forcefully. David Schmader answered in Gay Pride 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 6 more answers »

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  Why are gay men perceived as fabulous but gay women are perceived as drudges?

  9 0 Total retro bullshit. The contemporary evidence of Wanda Sykes, Rachel Maddow, Ellen Degeneres, and Portia DeRossi destroys the stereotype. And gay men who spend their time bagging on lesbians are either reverting to that "Ooh, icky fish!" reflexive gay male misogyny or just stupid. David Schmader answered in Gay Pride 11 months ago Answer, comment & read 7 more answers »

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  How can I become a gay icon? Tips anyone?

  1 0 Assassinate a notable homophobe and/or develop a cure for AIDS. David Schmader answered in Pride Week Q&A about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 5 more answers »

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  Why the need to prove being gay is biological?

  1 0 It's the only way to shut up those of the conversion-therapy mindset, as Gina points out. And, for me and lots of other people, it's the truth, so acknowledging it just makes sense. David Schmader answered in Pride Week Q&A about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 9 more answers »

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  Log Cabin Republicans

  1 0 "Self-hating, ignorant, or completely nuts?" I usually settle on "kinky." Some people think the only hot sex is forbidden sex. Gay GOPs turn this kink into a full-time lifestyle. David Schmader answered in Pride Week Q&A about 1 year ago Answer, comment & read 6 more answers »

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