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• Comment on BasementDweller3's answer…

  0 0 I'm working on it! :) Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Fnarf's answer…

  0 0 Kitts, thank you! I used to live in NYC when I was first starting my career as a professor and had no trouble buying great-looking, inexpensive suits and dresses. I did it by looking at magazines and at the women around me. I know that person is still inside of me. I'll definitely try the online stuff; I love its anonymity. And I know there's hope for my jeans-and-t-shirt self. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Thryn's answer…

  0 0 Okay, at last there is one person in the world who could make me smile about clothes shopping! I do need a sassy gay friend who can tell me some harsh truths (just buy the damn dress, you stupid bitch!); the ones I know and love live elsewhere, alas. But thank you! Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…

  0 0 Thanks Russ! I'm trying! :) Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on ozchick's answer…

  0 0 Wait, really? Okay, I hadn't even considered this idea of just trying to find one thing at a time. This could really work! I AM stressed and overwhelmed and can make bad decisions when I'm looking for a lot of clothes. I think this advice really helps. Thank you. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Thryn's answer…

  0 0 It's such a relief to hear that I'm not the only one who loathes clothes shopping. I can do it online okay, but it's the in-person stuff that freaks me out so badly. I've tried the shopping with friends idea and I usually end up turning all my charismatic energy on the friends, hoping they'll buy stuff and take the attention off of me. But I'll keep trying! Really! Thank you so much. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Russ Campbell, NWEBS's answer…

  0 0 I do have EAP services. It never even occurred to me that I could use them! I guess I'm still anxious about admitting to a counselor that I am afraid to shop for myself in person. Online is okay; it's a start. But stores intimidate me totally, and I feel faint when a salesperson approaches me. It's annoying to me and not particularly realistic, because that's her job after all, but I keep expecting her to say "nothing we have will look good on you." This happened to me when I asked to be measured for a bra; I'm not a weird size, but there was nothing in the store (Macy's!) that would fit me. I'm working on it, though! Thank you! Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Fnarf's answer…

  0 0 I have decent places to buy clothes nearby, but I think I'm afraid to BE in those places. All those mirrors. I can still buy stuff online and be okay about it, so there's one safe place I can trust. I've enjoyed What Not to Wear, so there's hope for me yet! THANK YOU. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on Basil's answer…

  0 0 Thank you! I'm definitely a rational person for everyone else except me. It didn't occur to me (truly) that I actually have the rational mind for myself too! Maybe I'll pretend that I'm talking to someone else (without the crazy irrational part, I promise) and be compassionate and encouraging. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

• Comment on BasementDweller3's answer…

  0 0 Thank you! That is surely what it is; I managed to fight the real voice off enough to leave him; I should be able to fight off the "shadow" voice. Just Asking commented 11 months ago

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