I've been in this situation more times than I care to remember. It is tough, no question about it. The first and best thing you can do is stay in touch with each other ALL the time. let each other know every little detail of what you are doing, no matter how trivial. Think about it, normally, you probably know almost everything about each other when you are together, where you went on the way home from work, what you ate, what time you woke up, that little niggle in your shoulder that your partner notices that you probably wouldn't have said anything about. Without being close to each other, most of that goes away, certainly over time.
Without it, the relationship somehow loses its connection, and that is when the rot sets in.
If you are passionate, think about writing each other letters about what you want to be doing with the other person. Try to be as detailed as you can, nothing says I love you like a piece of erotic literature when you are 5000 miles apart.
Send each other pictures, it is amazing how easily the mind forgets those little details about each other. A quick pic every now and again never did anyone any harm. Spicy pics, if you can pull yourself to doing it, add an even sharper edge.
Be faithful to each other. You'll both start spending time out enjoying yourselves without each other. It never ceases to amaze me how strong the pull of a casual relationship is once you've been apart for some time. Work hard at resisting it. Even if your partner never finds out, it will surface itself in some way and really isn't worth it.
Surprise each other. Do wild things, be inventive, think about things that speak volume and make the other guy realise how much you think about them and how much you love them. Book a trip home or for your partner to visit you if you can and spring it on them at the last minute. The feeling it gives you both is amazing and well worth the cost and effort.
Through the number of times I've been seperated between here and the UK, if you both work hard at it, and there is the really important part, both of you working at it, it can result in an amazingly strong relationship.
One last thing, if you have any cracks in your relationship that neither of you are talking about right now, get them out in the open before you leave. Otherwise, the amplification of them as distance and loneliness get the better of you is awful.
Oh, and have lots of sex before you leave. Nothing worse than getting on that plane having been chaste leading up to it. Go out with a bang!
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